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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 589992" data-attributes="member: 12886">For us.....some things I'd add or restate, on the negative side....(many of the things listed before apply to us too, but obviously not all)Circular argumentsImpulsive and acting indestructable way beyond typical teen's...and has been that way forever.Able to change the operating mode of their parent in fundamental ways, from emotions to career.&nbsp; (some difficult ways and in some ways that force us to grow)Not able to link action to consequence in the heat of the moment, sometimes not at allHighly egocentricVerbally and physically aggressive in an impulsive/reactionary wayOver reactive fight/flight reactionsRigid, rule bound, schedule and routine bound (also a positive)Vulnerable but not obvious to the public and some that work with him because invisible issues are not protected like those of people who have more obvious difficult child issues.Some of the characteristics of my and other g'sfg i know that i thought of while doing the above list..... not so bad, and at times GOOD things:Every day is a new day. Sometimes every minute.&nbsp; When &quot;it's&quot; over, we are on to a new situation....no need to carry on with negative behaviors and feelings. (even if mom still feels upset)Likes everyone and Everyone probably likes him.&nbsp; (his opinion) (but as was mentioned of there is any doubt....I'll reject you before you can reject me)&nbsp;&nbsp; Still, if you smile and give a high give, just s little attention....he thinks you are the best-doesn't matter what you look like etc.Always tries again, doesn't have a sense that maybe this is not something he should try because it's not cool, too hard, etc.Believes most anything anyone says ...especially &quot;not the mama&quot;...so can talk him away from some typical teen issues but that also means he is super vulnerable to predators and those who are a bad influence.Makes me appreciate the little successes and joys in life.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="buddy, post: 589992, member: 12886"] For us.....some things I'd add or restate, on the negative side....(many of the things listed before apply to us too, but obviously not all) Circular arguments Impulsive and acting indestructable way beyond typical teen's...and has been that way forever. Able to change the operating mode of their parent in fundamental ways, from emotions to career. (some difficult ways and in some ways that force us to grow) Not able to link action to consequence in the heat of the moment, sometimes not at all Highly egocentric Verbally and physically aggressive in an impulsive/reactionary way Over reactive fight/flight reactions Rigid, rule bound, schedule and routine bound (also a positive) Vulnerable but not obvious to the public and some that work with him because invisible issues are not protected like those of people who have more obvious difficult child issues. Some of the characteristics of my and other g'sfg i know that i thought of while doing the above list..... not so bad, and at times GOOD things: Every day is a new day. Sometimes every minute. When "it's" over, we are on to a new situation....no need to carry on with negative behaviors and feelings. (even if mom still feels upset) Likes everyone and Everyone probably likes him. (his opinion) (but as was mentioned of there is any doubt....I'll reject you before you can reject me) Still, if you smile and give a high give, just s little attention....he thinks you are the best-doesn't matter what you look like etc. Always tries again, doesn't have a sense that maybe this is not something he should try because it's not cool, too hard, etc. Believes most anything anyone says ...especially "not the mama"...so can talk him away from some typical teen issues but that also means he is super vulnerable to predators and those who are a bad influence. Makes me appreciate the little successes and joys in life. [/QUOTE]

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