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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 663828" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Good Morning Quicksand,</p><p>Oh how I remember those sleepless nights. As COM said, what you are feeling right now is the normal course of emotions.</p><p></p><p>This is a grieving process, while our DCs are very much alive we have to allow ourselves to grieve the loss of the child they once were and all the hopes and dreams we had for them as those are gone.</p><p>I was once where you are. I look back and there was that period of time I didn't think I would be able to get through all the pain, guilt and worry but I did.</p><p></p><p>How I did this was in letting go of my son. One thing that really helped me was to change in my mind the image I had of my son. I would always think of him as my little boy when the reality was quite opposite, he's a grown man, I started seeing him as he truly was, a grown man, no longer my sweet little boy. I also started taking my life back in little bits and pieces. There were things that I once really enjoyed doing but had stopped because I became so consumed with my sons chaos. My husband and I used to love to take long drives on the weekend, you know just go out exploring, stopping for lunch, looking through antique stores, just enjoying the day. We started doing that again and it was so good for us and our marriage.</p><p></p><p>It is so important to start taking your life back. Start doing things you once enjoyed or start finding new things to do. A very popular thing now is painting parties and I don't mean walls. We have a local restaurant that has a professional painter teach a class once a month. They will provide the canvas and paint. It's a blast!!</p><p></p><p>What ever it is, find something just for you.</p><p></p><p>You will get through this!!</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/group-hug.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":group-hug:" title="group hug :group-hug:" data-shortname=":group-hug:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 663828, member: 18516"] Good Morning Quicksand, Oh how I remember those sleepless nights. As COM said, what you are feeling right now is the normal course of emotions. This is a grieving process, while our DCs are very much alive we have to allow ourselves to grieve the loss of the child they once were and all the hopes and dreams we had for them as those are gone. I was once where you are. I look back and there was that period of time I didn't think I would be able to get through all the pain, guilt and worry but I did. How I did this was in letting go of my son. One thing that really helped me was to change in my mind the image I had of my son. I would always think of him as my little boy when the reality was quite opposite, he's a grown man, I started seeing him as he truly was, a grown man, no longer my sweet little boy. I also started taking my life back in little bits and pieces. There were things that I once really enjoyed doing but had stopped because I became so consumed with my sons chaos. My husband and I used to love to take long drives on the weekend, you know just go out exploring, stopping for lunch, looking through antique stores, just enjoying the day. We started doing that again and it was so good for us and our marriage. It is so important to start taking your life back. Start doing things you once enjoyed or start finding new things to do. A very popular thing now is painting parties and I don't mean walls. We have a local restaurant that has a professional painter teach a class once a month. They will provide the canvas and paint. It's a blast!! What ever it is, find something just for you. You will get through this!! :group-hug: [/QUOTE]
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