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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 638220" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Well, that was unpleasant to say the least. After a long talk with our pastor, in which he agreed that the shelter was probably a good solution, he called to make sure they still have beds and then Jabber and I called our son.</p><p></p><p>We told him coming home was not an option. We really are not ready to even talk to him. We told him about the shelter. He was less than excited, but in the end I think he'll go tomorrow. It's going to get cold, so I hope he doesn't call too late. He didn't want to tonight, I think it was just a bit much. But he hates where he is and can only stay there a couple days anyway. We told him the shelter will help him get on his feet. They apparently have a 90 day program, where people can stay while they work and get themselves on their feet. He is a bit far from the main part of town right now. He'd have a hour or so walk to find work. (Of course, in his world it's a 2 hour walk...but it really is quite a way.) He doesn't want to go to the shelter, but it's his only choice. He actually called the shelter himself and talked to them...I think he mostly wanted to know if he would be like in a barracks or a room or what. It's kind of odd that they told the pastor they had two "rooms" and that it was a long term shelter. Our son said they told him they had two upper bunks and a lower and if he came tonight it should be before 9 or to come tomorrow. I guess we'll figure it out. </p><p></p><p>He, of course, didn't want to talk about what he did. He just wanted to talk about how for the last couple months, he was getting better. How he was really trying to change and be a better person. But it doesn't change what he did. Just because he did it before he "got better" doesn't change that. We told him we love him, but we just don't trust him. That we've given him chance after chance and clearly what we were doing wasn't working. He says he misses us. That he was just starting to do things right and get better. He says he needs us. We told him he still has US, he just doesn't have our house. </p><p></p><p>Boy he's good at making me feel like dirt. </p><p></p><p>He was actually on the phone to his counselor when we called...so that's something I guess. He's going to set up a group session next week with us. I'm not sure how I feel about that. But we said we'd go. </p><p></p><p>I'm so tired. I'm afraid we're doing this wrong. He really <em>was </em>doing better, I know he was. I just don't know what else to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 638220, member: 17309"] Well, that was unpleasant to say the least. After a long talk with our pastor, in which he agreed that the shelter was probably a good solution, he called to make sure they still have beds and then Jabber and I called our son. We told him coming home was not an option. We really are not ready to even talk to him. We told him about the shelter. He was less than excited, but in the end I think he'll go tomorrow. It's going to get cold, so I hope he doesn't call too late. He didn't want to tonight, I think it was just a bit much. But he hates where he is and can only stay there a couple days anyway. We told him the shelter will help him get on his feet. They apparently have a 90 day program, where people can stay while they work and get themselves on their feet. He is a bit far from the main part of town right now. He'd have a hour or so walk to find work. (Of course, in his world it's a 2 hour walk...but it really is quite a way.) He doesn't want to go to the shelter, but it's his only choice. He actually called the shelter himself and talked to them...I think he mostly wanted to know if he would be like in a barracks or a room or what. It's kind of odd that they told the pastor they had two "rooms" and that it was a long term shelter. Our son said they told him they had two upper bunks and a lower and if he came tonight it should be before 9 or to come tomorrow. I guess we'll figure it out. He, of course, didn't want to talk about what he did. He just wanted to talk about how for the last couple months, he was getting better. How he was really trying to change and be a better person. But it doesn't change what he did. Just because he did it before he "got better" doesn't change that. We told him we love him, but we just don't trust him. That we've given him chance after chance and clearly what we were doing wasn't working. He says he misses us. That he was just starting to do things right and get better. He says he needs us. We told him he still has US, he just doesn't have our house. Boy he's good at making me feel like dirt. He was actually on the phone to his counselor when we called...so that's something I guess. He's going to set up a group session next week with us. I'm not sure how I feel about that. But we said we'd go. I'm so tired. I'm afraid we're doing this wrong. He really [I]was [/I]doing better, I know he was. I just don't know what else to do. [/QUOTE]
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