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<blockquote data-quote="Scout999" data-source="post: 766390" data-attributes="member: 33821"><p>I don’t really know how to begin. I have 3 children. The oldest is 25 year old who for the past year has been living in his car ( that is in Jeopardy of being repossessed) and traveling all over the country. I have sent him money with the assurance that this time he is looking for a job. I need to detach, but I panic every time I stop sending money and cave in. However, financially I have cut down and only sending enough for food and gas. My husband wants me to stop. I want to stop too. The fear and the panic is the obstacle. I lost my baby girl (stillborn) sometime ago and the grief has subsided, but cutting my son off causes the trauma and panic to reappear. Please no judgment. I’ve tried three therapists so far and not really helping. My son knows how to push and manipulate me. He may have some mental illness but no diagnosis. I would never let someone else do what he is doing to me. I read the detachment article posted. If anyone has any advice, I’m willing to hear it. Thanks so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Scout999, post: 766390, member: 33821"] I don’t really know how to begin. I have 3 children. The oldest is 25 year old who for the past year has been living in his car ( that is in Jeopardy of being repossessed) and traveling all over the country. I have sent him money with the assurance that this time he is looking for a job. I need to detach, but I panic every time I stop sending money and cave in. However, financially I have cut down and only sending enough for food and gas. My husband wants me to stop. I want to stop too. The fear and the panic is the obstacle. I lost my baby girl (stillborn) sometime ago and the grief has subsided, but cutting my son off causes the trauma and panic to reappear. Please no judgment. I’ve tried three therapists so far and not really helping. My son knows how to push and manipulate me. He may have some mental illness but no diagnosis. I would never let someone else do what he is doing to me. I read the detachment article posted. If anyone has any advice, I’m willing to hear it. Thanks so much. [/QUOTE]

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