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<blockquote data-quote="Bettyboo44" data-source="post: 766455" data-attributes="member: 33737">Yes I am struggling massively with the pain that comes with their lifestyles but also lately (maybe due to the festive period etc) with severe loneliness. I spent Christmas Day and New years eve/day on my own. I guess partly because like you, my siblings and other family members don’t quite understand or want to hear the madness that surrounds my life. I am saddened I’m so alone but I am very much determined to keep a distance between myself and my sons, that only in recent times I have ever successfully been able to maintain.&nbsp;&nbsp; I absolutely believe that is needed in order to let them be themselves, and make their own choices. However, I have completely neglected myself after years and years of trying to ‘rescue’ them, and so now I am desperately trying to build myself back up (not get stuck in this dark hole)You definitely are not alone and I really hope you continue reading books, writing on here, anything to help maintain your sanity and live a life that isn’t consumed by trying to rescue your adult child, who will always make their own choices, regardless of what you say or do anyway.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Bettyboo44, post: 766455, member: 33737"] Yes I am struggling massively with the pain that comes with their lifestyles but also lately (maybe due to the festive period etc) with severe loneliness. I spent Christmas Day and New years eve/day on my own. I guess partly because like you, my siblings and other family members don’t quite understand or want to hear the madness that surrounds my life. I am saddened I’m so alone but I am very much determined to keep a distance between myself and my sons, that only in recent times I have ever successfully been able to maintain. I absolutely believe that is needed in order to let them be themselves, and make their own choices. However, I have completely neglected myself after years and years of trying to ‘rescue’ them, and so now I am desperately trying to build myself back up (not get stuck in this dark hole) You definitely are not alone and I really hope you continue reading books, writing on here, anything to help maintain your sanity and live a life that isn’t consumed by trying to rescue your adult child, who will always make their own choices, regardless of what you say or do anyway. [/QUOTE]

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