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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 134785" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>towards the end of my difficult children time in school- they were very obviously TRYING hard to provoke my difficult child into exhibiting aggressive violent behavior- they would grab her, shake her, swear at her.....yes, I did catch them myself. In the act. </p><p>They NEEDED "proof" of her being violent to be able to move her out of their school. ALas, my difficult child NEVER lashed out, she simply would drop to floor, fetal position, and cry.</p><p>My difficult child did NOT have ANY substance abuse problem AT ALL.....but- we were warned by someone, if all else failed, she might be framed with illegal substances-- to get her out. </p><p></p><p>We also had illegal suspensions---and school would not notify us....another time, a dean chased difficult child out of the bldg, to parking lot where I was waiting in my car (school nurse had called me to come get her) and the dean started pounding on my car window telling me NEVER to bring her back EVER. I came home, called schol, asked what the story was....I had to leave my question on voicemail. I called several times over the next 3 days, with no return call. Nothing came in mail. 2 MONTHS later----I got a letter backdated a month, giveing dates of her "suspension being dates school was not even in session! She was denied my request for appeal of her suspension to school board, denied manifestation determination hearing on her suspension, missed finals due to suspension..and denied make up of finals. When brought up in due process, the sd lawyers said "well, so you have a letter, with typographical errors on it, and an envelope with a postmark, BUT how do we know YOU did not alter the envelope or the letter inside?" </p><p>All those things happened AFTER we filed to have due process. Once we filed to go to due process, school refused difficult child admittance to school AT ALL. She never did go back, not even one day. </p><p></p><p>Ironically, her last day of school- she was awake all nite the nite before- a boy in another town, from psychiatric hospital- called her numerous times, with death threats to her. she called 9-1-1 and police came and they heard the death threats by phone. they actually went to the next town and arrested him, after police took difficult children phone and tried to talk to this boy. He was released to parents by 5 am, and at 8 am, when difficult child went to school, THAT boy was sitting in HER school next to her in class! and she started to cry. Her teacher told her to stop being rude and welcome the new boy to the school. difficult child said no, she couldn;t and asked to use her escape pass to go to nurse. Teacher grabbed difficult child by her arms and hollered at her, difficult child fell to floor, got free of teacher and ran to office. Dean told her to stop crying and knock it off and go back to class, difficult child ran to nurse, who called me. I got there in time for dean to chase difficult child out to parking lot. </p><p></p><p>Seems the boy had been transfered from his school to difficult children school. </p><p>Dureing due process school continued to refuse to permit difficult child to go to school- difficult children psychiatrist requested homebound. school refused to do homebound, and asked due process hearing officer to decide. Hearing officer agreed to homebound, BUT school said they could not find a teacher- for 6 MONTHS. Then school decided to question psychiatrists credentials. SO psychiatrist wound up at due process. Defending her credentials. </p><p>Schol was finally also ordered to provide homebound. They did- homebound instructor wanted hours to be sat mornings 6 am till 8 am, on saturdays only. thru sumer. </p><p>I resisted becuz difficult child had an order from psychiatrist for late start school days. </p><p>Eventually we gave in, did a whole summer of homebound- and turned in the work, to find out homebound teacher had given difficult child work difficult child had already been given credit for the year before. </p><p>COntinued with new material- and turned a semesters worth of work in for that- and well, homebound teacher turned it in, but school said nope, homebound teacher never was in any contact with school. <sigh> No credit given. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Fast forward to son post surgery while we were at Ronald McDonald House. School ordered homebound becuz son could not attend school. Homebound could not come 5 hours to RMH. Then homebound could not accomodate a blind child. </p><p><sigh> </p><p></p><p>The only good thing I can say? I KNOW our experience is NOT typical. My sd is simply very extreme.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 134785, member: 1697"] towards the end of my difficult children time in school- they were very obviously TRYING hard to provoke my difficult child into exhibiting aggressive violent behavior- they would grab her, shake her, swear at her.....yes, I did catch them myself. In the act. They NEEDED "proof" of her being violent to be able to move her out of their school. ALas, my difficult child NEVER lashed out, she simply would drop to floor, fetal position, and cry. My difficult child did NOT have ANY substance abuse problem AT ALL.....but- we were warned by someone, if all else failed, she might be framed with illegal substances-- to get her out. We also had illegal suspensions---and school would not notify us....another time, a dean chased difficult child out of the bldg, to parking lot where I was waiting in my car (school nurse had called me to come get her) and the dean started pounding on my car window telling me NEVER to bring her back EVER. I came home, called schol, asked what the story was....I had to leave my question on voicemail. I called several times over the next 3 days, with no return call. Nothing came in mail. 2 MONTHS later----I got a letter backdated a month, giveing dates of her "suspension being dates school was not even in session! She was denied my request for appeal of her suspension to school board, denied manifestation determination hearing on her suspension, missed finals due to suspension..and denied make up of finals. When brought up in due process, the sd lawyers said "well, so you have a letter, with typographical errors on it, and an envelope with a postmark, BUT how do we know YOU did not alter the envelope or the letter inside?" All those things happened AFTER we filed to have due process. Once we filed to go to due process, school refused difficult child admittance to school AT ALL. She never did go back, not even one day. Ironically, her last day of school- she was awake all nite the nite before- a boy in another town, from psychiatric hospital- called her numerous times, with death threats to her. she called 9-1-1 and police came and they heard the death threats by phone. they actually went to the next town and arrested him, after police took difficult children phone and tried to talk to this boy. He was released to parents by 5 am, and at 8 am, when difficult child went to school, THAT boy was sitting in HER school next to her in class! and she started to cry. Her teacher told her to stop being rude and welcome the new boy to the school. difficult child said no, she couldn;t and asked to use her escape pass to go to nurse. Teacher grabbed difficult child by her arms and hollered at her, difficult child fell to floor, got free of teacher and ran to office. Dean told her to stop crying and knock it off and go back to class, difficult child ran to nurse, who called me. I got there in time for dean to chase difficult child out to parking lot. Seems the boy had been transfered from his school to difficult children school. Dureing due process school continued to refuse to permit difficult child to go to school- difficult children psychiatrist requested homebound. school refused to do homebound, and asked due process hearing officer to decide. Hearing officer agreed to homebound, BUT school said they could not find a teacher- for 6 MONTHS. Then school decided to question psychiatrists credentials. SO psychiatrist wound up at due process. Defending her credentials. Schol was finally also ordered to provide homebound. They did- homebound instructor wanted hours to be sat mornings 6 am till 8 am, on saturdays only. thru sumer. I resisted becuz difficult child had an order from psychiatrist for late start school days. Eventually we gave in, did a whole summer of homebound- and turned in the work, to find out homebound teacher had given difficult child work difficult child had already been given credit for the year before. COntinued with new material- and turned a semesters worth of work in for that- and well, homebound teacher turned it in, but school said nope, homebound teacher never was in any contact with school. <sigh> No credit given. Fast forward to son post surgery while we were at Ronald McDonald House. School ordered homebound becuz son could not attend school. Homebound could not come 5 hours to RMH. Then homebound could not accomodate a blind child. <sigh> The only good thing I can say? I KNOW our experience is NOT typical. My sd is simply very extreme. [/QUOTE]
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