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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 744289" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Laura </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry for what you are going through.</p><p></p><p>I think your sadness comes from the fact that you know your son is sick and that you cannot help him. I remember feeling this way about my son too.</p><p></p><p>But you have to also realize he doesn't really want "help" right now. </p><p></p><p>Then I would think that not wanting help is also part of the disease and I'd fall back into sadness and helplessness.</p><p></p><p>What my husband and I had to do to keep our sanity is to accept the fact that we could not help our son. I had to turn him over to God and know that it may be God's choice to take him. I knew that if he continued to be an addict that it was too painful for me to watch. I knew that he likely could die from this and there wasn't a thing I could do. I could not control this.</p><p></p><p>It was way bigger than me.</p><p></p><p>We sent our son away. I couldn't handle him being close any longer. I couldn't watch it. I couldn't handle the lies and betrayal anymore. It was tearing at my very core. I barely spoke to him or saw him for a few years until he went into the 13 month program which was our last resort. </p><p></p><p>Oh and he went in kicking and screaming but I would have let him be homeless before I'd let him live with me again. I could not do it.</p><p></p><p>I am thankful to say our son has now been sober for over a year and is finally living a normal life and is back with us. He is happy and learning how to live drug free. He is working full time and bought a vehicle with his own money and will make payments. He is seeing a nursing student. He has been given a second chance.</p><p></p><p>My heart is filled with joy. I didn't think he'd ever be normal either. </p><p></p><p>Every day is scary and I don't know what the future holds but I cannot live my life in fear. I've been afraid for too long.</p><p></p><p>I'm just saying there is hope. All you can do is let him know that you love him. You cannot fix this for him. </p><p></p><p>Take care of you in any way that you know how.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 744289, member: 15032"] Laura I am so sorry for what you are going through. I think your sadness comes from the fact that you know your son is sick and that you cannot help him. I remember feeling this way about my son too. But you have to also realize he doesn't really want "help" right now. Then I would think that not wanting help is also part of the disease and I'd fall back into sadness and helplessness. What my husband and I had to do to keep our sanity is to accept the fact that we could not help our son. I had to turn him over to God and know that it may be God's choice to take him. I knew that if he continued to be an addict that it was too painful for me to watch. I knew that he likely could die from this and there wasn't a thing I could do. I could not control this. It was way bigger than me. We sent our son away. I couldn't handle him being close any longer. I couldn't watch it. I couldn't handle the lies and betrayal anymore. It was tearing at my very core. I barely spoke to him or saw him for a few years until he went into the 13 month program which was our last resort. Oh and he went in kicking and screaming but I would have let him be homeless before I'd let him live with me again. I could not do it. I am thankful to say our son has now been sober for over a year and is finally living a normal life and is back with us. He is happy and learning how to live drug free. He is working full time and bought a vehicle with his own money and will make payments. He is seeing a nursing student. He has been given a second chance. My heart is filled with joy. I didn't think he'd ever be normal either. Every day is scary and I don't know what the future holds but I cannot live my life in fear. I've been afraid for too long. I'm just saying there is hope. All you can do is let him know that you love him. You cannot fix this for him. Take care of you in any way that you know how. [/QUOTE]
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