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Well, my son thinks demanding respectfulness is abuse towards him...lol
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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 597292" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>MWM - I just wanted to add that you're handling a very sticky situation here. Trying to be supportive while 35 goes through the difficulties in his life and trying to set boundaries as to what you will and will not accept and tolerate from him. </p><p></p><p>You are doing a great job but he is a slow learner. It's going to take a lot of time and patience on your part and of course conviction as well. Hang in there because you really are doing a great job. Remember that the reason it's taking so long for him to get it is because of him, not you. I know you feel like he may never get it and he might not (I feel this way about my difficult child too). I have resigned myself to continuing doing what I'm doing until it is obvious that he isn't going to change his spots. Right now I'm planning on hanging in there until he is 25 and then making a decision from there as to what I'm willing to do in our relationship. So for the next 8 years I plan to call him every week and try to have a nice conversation with him. That's it. </p><p></p><p>Of course 35 is much older than my difficult child and hasn't changed so you might want to change your time frame but I think I'd resolve to maybe 2 calls per week on set days and the rest I'd ignore. And continue to hold your ground with the boundaries you have set. </p><p></p><p>*Hugs to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 597292, member: 14356"] MWM - I just wanted to add that you're handling a very sticky situation here. Trying to be supportive while 35 goes through the difficulties in his life and trying to set boundaries as to what you will and will not accept and tolerate from him. You are doing a great job but he is a slow learner. It's going to take a lot of time and patience on your part and of course conviction as well. Hang in there because you really are doing a great job. Remember that the reason it's taking so long for him to get it is because of him, not you. I know you feel like he may never get it and he might not (I feel this way about my difficult child too). I have resigned myself to continuing doing what I'm doing until it is obvious that he isn't going to change his spots. Right now I'm planning on hanging in there until he is 25 and then making a decision from there as to what I'm willing to do in our relationship. So for the next 8 years I plan to call him every week and try to have a nice conversation with him. That's it. Of course 35 is much older than my difficult child and hasn't changed so you might want to change your time frame but I think I'd resolve to maybe 2 calls per week on set days and the rest I'd ignore. And continue to hold your ground with the boundaries you have set. *Hugs to you. [/QUOTE]
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