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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 296362" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>I never worried about difficult child jumping out of the car or grabbing the wheel. difficult child is very passive. He has this blank, emotionless look and will only say, yes, no, i dunno, I didn't do it, ok, that sort of thing. Then when no one is looking he does something crappy. </p><p> </p><p>THe closest he's ever come to being even a little openly aggressive is he recently told his father to shut up. That was pretty surprising, he's just massively passive aggressive.</p><p> </p><p>We picked him up from military boot camp, the director was glowing and couldn't say enough nice things about him. difficult child was bursting with pride. husband said he felt weird, he said: "What do you say? That he's going to court tomorrow for his fourth felony and probably going to be taken by the state and put into a juvvy detention and the best thing we can hope for is he goes to a mental health facility?"</p><p> </p><p>So husband and I smiled and nodded. After we got in the car and drove for a while and then husband said,"You know after you left the fun didn't end for me. We had a visitor after you went to camp, who left this document." And he handed it back for difficult child to read.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child was very quiet. He asked what a delinquent was. We told him.</p><p> </p><p>Then husband handed him the police report. difficult child read it and said that the part about him having drugs in his pocket before was wrong, he didn't get them at school, he got them at home and he launched into an explanation which husband and I cut off: the charges weren't about him 'finding' drugs in his pocket at him, the judge is only going to care about if on that day at camp did he or did he not have five pills in his pocket. difficult child said, "Yes." I said, "And the judge is going to want to know if did you or did you not have a prescription for those pills?" difficult child said "No". </p><p> </p><p>We said the judge can ask any question he wants about anything in your life, but he will only rule on whether you broke the law by taking five pills to the school summer camp on that day and if you had a legal right to possess those pills or not.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child didn't say anything. We explained that difficult child had 3 choices, to say if he was guilty, or not guilty, or no contest which means HE doesn't think he's guilty but he knows there's enough evidence to prove him guilty, so he's not going to fight it. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child looked out the window and tears came down his cheeks. About 15 minutes later he fell asleep. When we got home he went into his room, and a little later confided to husband that I had stolen his 'ranger beads'. So the games start again already. </p><p> </p><p>Also he told husband he didn't want to live here and wouldn't husband send him to the associated military school (which costs 45,000).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 296362, member: 5169"] I never worried about difficult child jumping out of the car or grabbing the wheel. difficult child is very passive. He has this blank, emotionless look and will only say, yes, no, i dunno, I didn't do it, ok, that sort of thing. Then when no one is looking he does something crappy. THe closest he's ever come to being even a little openly aggressive is he recently told his father to shut up. That was pretty surprising, he's just massively passive aggressive. We picked him up from military boot camp, the director was glowing and couldn't say enough nice things about him. difficult child was bursting with pride. husband said he felt weird, he said: "What do you say? That he's going to court tomorrow for his fourth felony and probably going to be taken by the state and put into a juvvy detention and the best thing we can hope for is he goes to a mental health facility?" So husband and I smiled and nodded. After we got in the car and drove for a while and then husband said,"You know after you left the fun didn't end for me. We had a visitor after you went to camp, who left this document." And he handed it back for difficult child to read. difficult child was very quiet. He asked what a delinquent was. We told him. Then husband handed him the police report. difficult child read it and said that the part about him having drugs in his pocket before was wrong, he didn't get them at school, he got them at home and he launched into an explanation which husband and I cut off: the charges weren't about him 'finding' drugs in his pocket at him, the judge is only going to care about if on that day at camp did he or did he not have five pills in his pocket. difficult child said, "Yes." I said, "And the judge is going to want to know if did you or did you not have a prescription for those pills?" difficult child said "No". We said the judge can ask any question he wants about anything in your life, but he will only rule on whether you broke the law by taking five pills to the school summer camp on that day and if you had a legal right to possess those pills or not. difficult child didn't say anything. We explained that difficult child had 3 choices, to say if he was guilty, or not guilty, or no contest which means HE doesn't think he's guilty but he knows there's enough evidence to prove him guilty, so he's not going to fight it. difficult child looked out the window and tears came down his cheeks. About 15 minutes later he fell asleep. When we got home he went into his room, and a little later confided to husband that I had stolen his 'ranger beads'. So the games start again already. Also he told husband he didn't want to live here and wouldn't husband send him to the associated military school (which costs 45,000). [/QUOTE]
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