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<blockquote data-quote="Twinners" data-source="post: 296399" data-attributes="member: 7833"><p>WSM - As the mother of a child with ODD, along with many other behavioral problems, I can certainly sympathize with your plight. However, I have to say, in reading through all of your posts, the thing that stood out for me the most wasn't all the things your husband's difficult child is doing or even the things your husband is doing... it was the seeming lack of <em>unity</em> or <em>family</em> your situation seems to have. It almost seems like an "us" versus "them" or a "me/mine" versus "him/his" situation, which can't be good for <em>anyone</em> involved, <em>especially</em> your husband's difficult child. It seems you've tried various therapy options for your husband's difficult child, but I'm wondering, have you ever tried <em>family</em> counseling? If not, that may be an option for you.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It seems like you have a lot of hostility and resentment built up toward your stepson, something I <em>completely</em> understand. However, it doesn't seem like your husband feels those things towards his difficult child, at least not yet. He can still tolerate his difficult child's behavior, which is why, in my opinion, he is still trying to find ways to get him help <em>in home</em>. You, on the other hand, seem not to be able to tolerate his behavior any longer, which is why, in my opinion, you want him to get help away from home. That is where the difference/problem is, in my opinion. I think that is a wall many of us run into at some point or the other. In fact, it is the one my husband and I are up against now. I think our solution will end up being him leaving for a while to have a much needed break from our difficult child. I don't know... maybe that is what you need from your husband's too.</p><p></p><p>ETA: Oh, by the way, you mentioned what you would do if *you* were parenting your husband's difficult child in one of your posts. Well, if you've been with him for the last four or five years, I'd say you have been! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Twinners, post: 296399, member: 7833"] WSM - As the mother of a child with ODD, along with many other behavioral problems, I can certainly sympathize with your plight. However, I have to say, in reading through all of your posts, the thing that stood out for me the most wasn't all the things your husband's difficult child is doing or even the things your husband is doing... it was the seeming lack of [I]unity[/I] or [I]family[/I] your situation seems to have. It almost seems like an "us" versus "them" or a "me/mine" versus "him/his" situation, which can't be good for [I]anyone[/I] involved, [I]especially[/I] your husband's difficult child. It seems you've tried various therapy options for your husband's difficult child, but I'm wondering, have you ever tried [I]family[/I] counseling? If not, that may be an option for you. It seems like you have a lot of hostility and resentment built up toward your stepson, something I [I]completely[/I] understand. However, it doesn't seem like your husband feels those things towards his difficult child, at least not yet. He can still tolerate his difficult child's behavior, which is why, in my opinion, he is still trying to find ways to get him help [I]in home[/I]. You, on the other hand, seem not to be able to tolerate his behavior any longer, which is why, in my opinion, you want him to get help away from home. That is where the difference/problem is, in my opinion. I think that is a wall many of us run into at some point or the other. In fact, it is the one my husband and I are up against now. I think our solution will end up being him leaving for a while to have a much needed break from our difficult child. I don't know... maybe that is what you need from your husband's too. ETA: Oh, by the way, you mentioned what you would do if *you* were parenting your husband's difficult child in one of your posts. Well, if you've been with him for the last four or five years, I'd say you have been! :winking: [/QUOTE]
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