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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 230724" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>I only have one of my adult children left at home. MY 27year old son who has all kinds of learning disabilities and some orthopedic problems lives with me. He works full time pays his own car maintinence and insurance, buys all his own clothes, does his own laundry, and pays room and board of $400/month. He is also saving for a down payment on his own place. All this is financed by his job of driving a snack food route truck. He works long hard hours and I am proud of him. Then there is easy child 1 who knows what is luxury and what is necessity and budgets her family expenses accordingly.</p><p></p><p>Least you think I/m bragging...At the other extreme is my difficult child 1 who never fully supported herself even after moving out. (I put her out for a variety of reasons mostly abuse and disrespect of me.) She got married and never worked full time again. She spends her husband's income freely indulging herself at whim. And anchoring the opposite extreme is difficult child 2 who is living in a group home and on public assistance. </p><p> </p><p>POINT? They were all raised in the same household with the same value system. I think that as a parent of an adult we have to decide what we are willing to accept in the way of support and responsibility to our adult children. Once we figure that out we must present it to them clearly. If they don't agree whith what we ask of them, then we need to make them go out on thier own where they have to pay for it all. Life isn't all fun and games and adults children living at home need to learn that. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 230724, member: 2315"] I only have one of my adult children left at home. MY 27year old son who has all kinds of learning disabilities and some orthopedic problems lives with me. He works full time pays his own car maintinence and insurance, buys all his own clothes, does his own laundry, and pays room and board of $400/month. He is also saving for a down payment on his own place. All this is financed by his job of driving a snack food route truck. He works long hard hours and I am proud of him. Then there is easy child 1 who knows what is luxury and what is necessity and budgets her family expenses accordingly. Least you think I/m bragging...At the other extreme is my difficult child 1 who never fully supported herself even after moving out. (I put her out for a variety of reasons mostly abuse and disrespect of me.) She got married and never worked full time again. She spends her husband's income freely indulging herself at whim. And anchoring the opposite extreme is difficult child 2 who is living in a group home and on public assistance. POINT? They were all raised in the same household with the same value system. I think that as a parent of an adult we have to decide what we are willing to accept in the way of support and responsibility to our adult children. Once we figure that out we must present it to them clearly. If they don't agree whith what we ask of them, then we need to make them go out on thier own where they have to pay for it all. Life isn't all fun and games and adults children living at home need to learn that. -RM [/QUOTE]
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