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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 333257" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>RM, I'm thinking a lot about your reply. I think I may have overstated my son's happiness with his current situation which is really what got me posting in the first place. He APPEARS to be content. In an effort to shake him out of that state, we've offered all sorts of incentives including help to buy a car if he wants to drive (he's never gotten his license), first and last months' rent on an apartment if he wants his own place, etc., all contingent on finding a job so that he can, in a specified period of time, take over and pay for these things himself. He seems excited about moving toward independence when we talk about it, but then it comes out later that he's actually overwhelmed and fearful and is ashamed and hates himself for feeling that way to the point that, a couple of times, he's ended up with tears streaming down his face. So, no, he's not really happy with himself or the situation anymore than we are. </p><p></p><p>I'm frustrated by his apparent lack of motivation, if that's what it is, and want to be sure that that's what we're dealing with as opposed to the slight possibility that he's really doing the best he can do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 333257, member: 1835"] RM, I'm thinking a lot about your reply. I think I may have overstated my son's happiness with his current situation which is really what got me posting in the first place. He APPEARS to be content. In an effort to shake him out of that state, we've offered all sorts of incentives including help to buy a car if he wants to drive (he's never gotten his license), first and last months' rent on an apartment if he wants his own place, etc., all contingent on finding a job so that he can, in a specified period of time, take over and pay for these things himself. He seems excited about moving toward independence when we talk about it, but then it comes out later that he's actually overwhelmed and fearful and is ashamed and hates himself for feeling that way to the point that, a couple of times, he's ended up with tears streaming down his face. So, no, he's not really happy with himself or the situation anymore than we are. I'm frustrated by his apparent lack of motivation, if that's what it is, and want to be sure that that's what we're dealing with as opposed to the slight possibility that he's really doing the best he can do. [/QUOTE]
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