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What do I do with almost 19 year old son--smoking pot
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<blockquote data-quote="disgusted" data-source="post: 628663" data-attributes="member: 18098"><p>I must have done something wrong. My son just finished his freshman year at a community college. He didnt get accepted into a state school but of course got into private schools which were 40K a year. I told him he couldnt go away until his grades were up to par and he became serious about eduaction. I am divorced and do not have the money to pay for a private college with no scholarship. My son has been smoking pot every night and hanging out with the "neigh borhood" kids who are still in high school, some are 2 years younger than him. He has a part time job at the local food store as a cashier @ minimum wage. For the last 2 summers he was a summer camp counselor at the YMCA. Well, this year they didnt take him back. He said he doesnt know why. About 2 months ago I told him to go down to the Y and ask why, he said he did and they said they had some cuts and they had some of the 'younger' kids. My son is 19 and there are kids who are 17-18 that will be working there this summer. It doesnt make sense. It doesnt seem to be bothering him that he cannot go back. Before he started working there, he would be there for summer camp while I worked from age 9 till he statred working. Since he has been driving which is only 18 months, he has received a speeding ticket (77 in a 55 zone), had a small accident, Just this week he got pulled over for going through a stop sign, and 2 red light camera tickets in 1 night; within 20 minutes of each other.1 was for a right turn on red--he didnt stop, and the other was for going through a red light. Both summons came with a link to view the citation, clearly both lights were red when he approached them. About 1 onnth ago his car engine seized up and was un repairable so I got him another car, a 10 year old volvo. He had the car 1 week and hit something that damaged the passenger side mirror, then this Thursday night he said he was in the gas station and hit the poles near the pumps and damaged the passenger rear door. I know he is driving high and wondering how long its gonna take him to really hurts someone. He has his own insurance, hes not on mine, he owns the car, its registered in his name. He doesnt listen to me anymore, tells me I'm crazy, tells me that I cannot hold him back anymore and that everything he is doing is normal for his age. He says all college kids smoke pot and just hang out. Hes not involved in sports or hobbies, they only smoke pot. I dont know what to do with him. I have tried to get him to go back to Karate or to a gym, or to volunteer his time for a good cause....hes not interested. He does have a curfew; 12:30 but he says he is the oldest of his friends and he has to come home the earliest. Whats wrong with these parents? His friends are allowed to stay out till 2-3 in the morning and you know there is nothing good happening at that hour. WHAT TO DO???? Very scared and worried for my son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="disgusted, post: 628663, member: 18098"] I must have done something wrong. My son just finished his freshman year at a community college. He didnt get accepted into a state school but of course got into private schools which were 40K a year. I told him he couldnt go away until his grades were up to par and he became serious about eduaction. I am divorced and do not have the money to pay for a private college with no scholarship. My son has been smoking pot every night and hanging out with the "neigh borhood" kids who are still in high school, some are 2 years younger than him. He has a part time job at the local food store as a cashier @ minimum wage. For the last 2 summers he was a summer camp counselor at the YMCA. Well, this year they didnt take him back. He said he doesnt know why. About 2 months ago I told him to go down to the Y and ask why, he said he did and they said they had some cuts and they had some of the 'younger' kids. My son is 19 and there are kids who are 17-18 that will be working there this summer. It doesnt make sense. It doesnt seem to be bothering him that he cannot go back. Before he started working there, he would be there for summer camp while I worked from age 9 till he statred working. Since he has been driving which is only 18 months, he has received a speeding ticket (77 in a 55 zone), had a small accident, Just this week he got pulled over for going through a stop sign, and 2 red light camera tickets in 1 night; within 20 minutes of each other.1 was for a right turn on red--he didnt stop, and the other was for going through a red light. Both summons came with a link to view the citation, clearly both lights were red when he approached them. About 1 onnth ago his car engine seized up and was un repairable so I got him another car, a 10 year old volvo. He had the car 1 week and hit something that damaged the passenger side mirror, then this Thursday night he said he was in the gas station and hit the poles near the pumps and damaged the passenger rear door. I know he is driving high and wondering how long its gonna take him to really hurts someone. He has his own insurance, hes not on mine, he owns the car, its registered in his name. He doesnt listen to me anymore, tells me I'm crazy, tells me that I cannot hold him back anymore and that everything he is doing is normal for his age. He says all college kids smoke pot and just hang out. Hes not involved in sports or hobbies, they only smoke pot. I dont know what to do with him. I have tried to get him to go back to Karate or to a gym, or to volunteer his time for a good cause....hes not interested. He does have a curfew; 12:30 but he says he is the oldest of his friends and he has to come home the earliest. Whats wrong with these parents? His friends are allowed to stay out till 2-3 in the morning and you know there is nothing good happening at that hour. WHAT TO DO???? Very scared and worried for my son. [/QUOTE]
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