Hi all,
We asked my son to move out a couple of weeks ago for a variety of issues including sustained drug use, stealing, breaking into our house, and lying about everything under the sun (even things that don't matter). He was rude and scaring me to the point where I did not feel safe around him. My husband and I both agreed that difficult child cannot live here any more. He was back for the night last night but with the understanding it was a one night stay and he left by 6 AM.
His room was/is a mess and my husband remarked that it looked like a 'drug den' because difficult child had removed the bed frame and was sleeping on the mattress on the floor without sheets. difficult child dismantled and threw out his desk, and took most of his clothes with him. The carpet is ruined. We had asked him not to eat in his room but amazingly, dirty dishes just seemed to float upstairs!!!!
Long story short - I am turning the bedroom back into a livable space and find that I have a lot of options. Question: What have others done? Deliberately create a different sort of space that doesn't seem really inviting to difficult child (pink and frilly)? recreate their difficult child's room? etc. I am sick (as we all are) over my difficult child's choices in life and part of me wants to "make it all better" by giving him a terrific clean new room (which I won't really do, however.)
Thanks,
BKS
