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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 749563" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p>CKay87:"<em> In a nutshell, I mostly CAN'T talk about my sons. There's nothing to say. Nobody can relate. It's a reflection on me (people who haven't been where we are 100% believe that we completely control how our kids turn out, you can't tell me otherwise). And now I'm all weepy because I DID have 2 cute little boys who I read to and took to playgrounds and vacation and snuggled and giggled and did crafts. And I led Boy Scouts and taught Sunday School and volunteered at school.....</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>And now it's like they didn't even exist because I can't talk about them."</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>Ouch. This is exactly where I am right now. I too, as did probably almost every single person on this site, once had a cute, sweet, lovable little boy with whom I read books, homeschooled, took to museums and on vacations, took to church, paid for his participation in church mission trips, and all those other parent things you do for your child. And now, I have a nearly homeless, angry, profane, deceptive person whom I no longer know. And it's almost as if the person he was doesn't exist anymore. He's dead. And when it comes to friends who have known us and him in the past...I've had to cut ties with those people because I can't handle the inevitable question, "How's Josh doing?" How do I answer that? It's too painful. </p><p></p><p>I agree; some people definitely attribute how your child turns out to how you did as a parent, even if they don't say it out loud. It's there...hanging in the air. The burden IS tremendous. Most days, I feel like I'm carrying a huge boulder on my shoulder, trying to get it through life. The future looks pretty bleak right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 749563, member: 22597"] CKay87:"[I] In a nutshell, I mostly CAN'T talk about my sons. There's nothing to say. Nobody can relate. It's a reflection on me (people who haven't been where we are 100% believe that we completely control how our kids turn out, you can't tell me otherwise). And now I'm all weepy because I DID have 2 cute little boys who I read to and took to playgrounds and vacation and snuggled and giggled and did crafts. And I led Boy Scouts and taught Sunday School and volunteered at school..... And now it's like they didn't even exist because I can't talk about them." [/I] Ouch. This is exactly where I am right now. I too, as did probably almost every single person on this site, once had a cute, sweet, lovable little boy with whom I read books, homeschooled, took to museums and on vacations, took to church, paid for his participation in church mission trips, and all those other parent things you do for your child. And now, I have a nearly homeless, angry, profane, deceptive person whom I no longer know. And it's almost as if the person he was doesn't exist anymore. He's dead. And when it comes to friends who have known us and him in the past...I've had to cut ties with those people because I can't handle the inevitable question, "How's Josh doing?" How do I answer that? It's too painful. I agree; some people definitely attribute how your child turns out to how you did as a parent, even if they don't say it out loud. It's there...hanging in the air. The burden IS tremendous. Most days, I feel like I'm carrying a huge boulder on my shoulder, trying to get it through life. The future looks pretty bleak right now. [/QUOTE]
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