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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 694301" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Leaf dear,</p><p>Thoughts are with you. I’m always thankful to see you back on the site.</p><p>Today is an awesome day in paradise, ya! … Lucky we live ...</p><p></p><p>I think there is no meeting "<em>half way</em>.” What does “<em>half way</em>” mean? No. I think there is no “half way” in your situation with Rain, with what has transpired over the past years. There is no place or reason for you going to the park. It is Blossom that appears to want the reconciliation, not Rain.</p><p></p><p>If Rain wants it, it is up to Rain to want to do what’s needed, if she wants any relationship back with you … if she is committed to do what is needed for the required changes (including and especially drug recovery.)</p><p></p><p>I know your love for her is there … your feeling of responsibility and of desire to help your child is there under the surface. My feeling is that if your feeling of love and responsibility urges you to need to do something … that if you want her to know that there could be a door for her to find you, if and when she is ever ready for change … you could send a brief note (only a note, no goodies and presents) … via Blossom … and even being truthful that it is because of Blossom’s concern that you are writing. I see nothing wrong in wanting to share your truth that :</p><p>· you know she hurts</p><p>· you know she is learning hard lessons that must be learned before she is ready for change</p><p>· you know she is making decisions for her future (good or bad)</p><p>· you know she can have so much more in her life if she wanted it, but it is up to her to want it enough</p><p>· and that she knows what to do if she wanted to change and where to get help if she wants.</p><p></p><p>You could express that if she is ever at a point to want change enough to commit to the actions needed to make it happen, that you are there to help lift up with love and encouragement, only as she makes the efforts to climb on her own.</p><p></p><p>How hard this is for us all. <em>Malama pono, </em>dear<em>.</em> Aloha - HA ...</p><p>Kalahou</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 694301, member: 19617"] Leaf dear, Thoughts are with you. I’m always thankful to see you back on the site. Today is an awesome day in paradise, ya! … Lucky we live ... I think there is no meeting "[I]half way[/I].” What does “[I]half way[/I]” mean? No. I think there is no “half way” in your situation with Rain, with what has transpired over the past years. There is no place or reason for you going to the park. It is Blossom that appears to want the reconciliation, not Rain. If Rain wants it, it is up to Rain to want to do what’s needed, if she wants any relationship back with you … if she is committed to do what is needed for the required changes (including and especially drug recovery.) I know your love for her is there … your feeling of responsibility and of desire to help your child is there under the surface. My feeling is that if your feeling of love and responsibility urges you to need to do something … that if you want her to know that there could be a door for her to find you, if and when she is ever ready for change … you could send a brief note (only a note, no goodies and presents) … via Blossom … and even being truthful that it is because of Blossom’s concern that you are writing. I see nothing wrong in wanting to share your truth that : · you know she hurts · you know she is learning hard lessons that must be learned before she is ready for change · you know she is making decisions for her future (good or bad) · you know she can have so much more in her life if she wanted it, but it is up to her to want it enough · and that she knows what to do if she wanted to change and where to get help if she wants. You could express that if she is ever at a point to want change enough to commit to the actions needed to make it happen, that you are there to help lift up with love and encouragement, only as she makes the efforts to climb on her own. How hard this is for us all. [I]Malama pono, [/I]dear[I].[/I] Aloha - HA ... Kalahou [/QUOTE]
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