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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 613040" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>RE - The dreams are becoming a bit vivid and weird again, but I haven't been <em>as</em> good as I should be about taking my medication late enough in the morning. I have a batch of pills that I take daily, and they make me sick to my stomach if I take them without food and I never have been a breakfast person. I really need to put the Buproprion on my nightstand and just take it with water in the morning. Old habits die hard. This should be an easy one to break, and I'm going to go move the pills as soon as I'm done typing. I used to always take my BC pills in the morning that way.</p><p></p><p>I<em> am </em>anxious because I know that L will have her babies soon, and I feel as though someone will call me or email me or contact me on FB and say, "So what's it like to be a grandma?" or some other such nonsense when everyone knows it's nothing more than biological. Like you, Barbara, I feel a strong need to not do the same dance, while at the same time not falling into their game. People who push these things are <em>so rude</em> and so unclever. If I say something noncommittal like "I don't <em>feel </em>old enough to be a grandma" or some variation of that, there are people who will push. Someone will come back with "No! I mean, what's it like? Are you going to see them? Did you hear from L? Are you going back home?" I need to practice my best Dear Abbey reply, "Why do you feel you need to know about that?" or "That's personal and husband and I have it covered." </p><p></p><p>I have been having vivid dreams about this, but nothing crazy scary like before. Just not good dreams. Actually, I need to <em>put into </em>practice something altogether different (and difficult) for now, which is not anticipate the nastiness. Still, I don't feel as though I should bury my head in the sand as to whether those comments will come, either about L's babies or my dad's passing, when it comes. They'll come. I need to find some sort of peace with the fact that someone will do something hurtful and stupid and that is about them so I shouldn't react. What I <em>really </em>need to do stop wasting time on this <em>now</em>. As the old saying goes, "Trouble waits for everyone. There's no reason to rush to meet it."</p><p></p><p>I also took the time to start watching the TED talks the other night. I have them on Netflix and didn't get around to actually watching any of them before. I hadn't realized that they were so short. I can only tolerate "self-help" in small doses. It's much more easily digestible that way. I'll be looking at them more often.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 613040, member: 99"] RE - The dreams are becoming a bit vivid and weird again, but I haven't been [I]as[/I] good as I should be about taking my medication late enough in the morning. I have a batch of pills that I take daily, and they make me sick to my stomach if I take them without food and I never have been a breakfast person. I really need to put the Buproprion on my nightstand and just take it with water in the morning. Old habits die hard. This should be an easy one to break, and I'm going to go move the pills as soon as I'm done typing. I used to always take my BC pills in the morning that way. I[I] am [/I]anxious because I know that L will have her babies soon, and I feel as though someone will call me or email me or contact me on FB and say, "So what's it like to be a grandma?" or some other such nonsense when everyone knows it's nothing more than biological. Like you, Barbara, I feel a strong need to not do the same dance, while at the same time not falling into their game. People who push these things are [I]so rude[/I] and so unclever. If I say something noncommittal like "I don't [I]feel [/I]old enough to be a grandma" or some variation of that, there are people who will push. Someone will come back with "No! I mean, what's it like? Are you going to see them? Did you hear from L? Are you going back home?" I need to practice my best Dear Abbey reply, "Why do you feel you need to know about that?" or "That's personal and husband and I have it covered." I have been having vivid dreams about this, but nothing crazy scary like before. Just not good dreams. Actually, I need to [I]put into [/I]practice something altogether different (and difficult) for now, which is not anticipate the nastiness. Still, I don't feel as though I should bury my head in the sand as to whether those comments will come, either about L's babies or my dad's passing, when it comes. They'll come. I need to find some sort of peace with the fact that someone will do something hurtful and stupid and that is about them so I shouldn't react. What I [I]really [/I]need to do stop wasting time on this [I]now[/I]. As the old saying goes, "Trouble waits for everyone. There's no reason to rush to meet it." I also took the time to start watching the TED talks the other night. I have them on Netflix and didn't get around to actually watching any of them before. I hadn't realized that they were so short. I can only tolerate "self-help" in small doses. It's much more easily digestible that way. I'll be looking at them more often. [/QUOTE]
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