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What does it mean when a child blatantly steals from you?
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 517726" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome to the board <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p> </p><p></p><p>The kids don't go from bad to worse from being thrown out into the street, they go from bad to worse as they walk the path of addiction. I know you stated your son smokes pot, but from his behavior and the stealing......well, it strongly suggests he's doing more than just pot. And unfortunately as long as he's doing any drug, 95 percent of any help you're giving him (as in a place to live, food, clothes, ect ect) is enabling him to continue the behavior. </p><p></p><p>I have an extremely low tolerance for stealing and lying. What he did with the journal would've gotten him tossed out on his rear immediately, whether he had a place to go or not. Biting the hand that feeds you is pretty much the stupidest thing you can do. </p><p></p><p>Your son has no motivation to move from perpetual teendom into adulthood. He's lying and stealing. He has a drug problem that is already interfering with his life. </p><p></p><p>If it were me, I'd give him 3 months. Where he goes or what he does wouldn't be my problem. He's an adult, he can handle it. (if not, he'll learn quickly) Next time strange sneakers show up I'd be reporting it to the police. He's either stealing them himself or selling them for someone else who is doing the stealing. </p><p></p><p>Tough love? Yup. As an adult, living at home is a privilege, not a right. He's badly abused this privilege and it's time for him to make his own way in the world. Success or failure is up to him. You've spent his whole childhood preparing him to leave the nest. You can't force him to make the right decisions, but you can push him out and tell him it's high time to grow up. </p><p></p><p>Detachment is a process. It can be hard at first. It doesn't mean you stop loving or stop caring about your child. It means you're learning to accept that you can't live their life for them, it's learning to let go of the difficult child drama and reclaiming your own life and happiness. </p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 517726, member: 84"] Welcome to the board :) The kids don't go from bad to worse from being thrown out into the street, they go from bad to worse as they walk the path of addiction. I know you stated your son smokes pot, but from his behavior and the stealing......well, it strongly suggests he's doing more than just pot. And unfortunately as long as he's doing any drug, 95 percent of any help you're giving him (as in a place to live, food, clothes, ect ect) is enabling him to continue the behavior. I have an extremely low tolerance for stealing and lying. What he did with the journal would've gotten him tossed out on his rear immediately, whether he had a place to go or not. Biting the hand that feeds you is pretty much the stupidest thing you can do. Your son has no motivation to move from perpetual teendom into adulthood. He's lying and stealing. He has a drug problem that is already interfering with his life. If it were me, I'd give him 3 months. Where he goes or what he does wouldn't be my problem. He's an adult, he can handle it. (if not, he'll learn quickly) Next time strange sneakers show up I'd be reporting it to the police. He's either stealing them himself or selling them for someone else who is doing the stealing. Tough love? Yup. As an adult, living at home is a privilege, not a right. He's badly abused this privilege and it's time for him to make his own way in the world. Success or failure is up to him. You've spent his whole childhood preparing him to leave the nest. You can't force him to make the right decisions, but you can push him out and tell him it's high time to grow up. Detachment is a process. It can be hard at first. It doesn't mean you stop loving or stop caring about your child. It means you're learning to accept that you can't live their life for them, it's learning to let go of the difficult child drama and reclaiming your own life and happiness. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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