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What have i done so wrong to make my adult daughter dislike me so much?
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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 650381" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Well that also is a problem because most therapist openly dislike people with personality disorders as the rate of "successful treatment" is extremely low. I have told others here that a personality disorder differs from a mental disorder in that you can get help for a mental disorder; try changing your entire personality to actually be someone else. Try thinking if you could be changed to behave like your daughter does for the rest of your life. Not likely.</p><p></p><p>The help for this situation is for you, not her. You can change to interact with her on another, more comfortable level once you understand the "what" you are dealing with.</p><p>Maybe you will decide you can't do that because her behavior is so out there. That is OK too. But now that you are becoming aware of what you are dealing with, it is in your hands to decide what you will do when dealing with your daughter.</p><p></p><p>Personality disorders have DNA and can skip some members of the family or hit others especially hard. Just like different eye colors, height, hair etc.</p><p></p><p>Accepting what your daughter is will set you into a big emotional battle within yourself, because you can no longer actually talk to her, especially about the disorder, (she will reject it) so anytime you deal with her, this person you know and dislike will always be this way <em>unless</em> she is "working" you in some way.</p><p></p><p>It's a long and lonely road but this board is here for you. I am here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 650381, member: 18366"] Well that also is a problem because most therapist openly dislike people with personality disorders as the rate of "successful treatment" is extremely low. I have told others here that a personality disorder differs from a mental disorder in that you can get help for a mental disorder; try changing your entire personality to actually be someone else. Try thinking if you could be changed to behave like your daughter does for the rest of your life. Not likely. The help for this situation is for you, not her. You can change to interact with her on another, more comfortable level once you understand the "what" you are dealing with. Maybe you will decide you can't do that because her behavior is so out there. That is OK too. But now that you are becoming aware of what you are dealing with, it is in your hands to decide what you will do when dealing with your daughter. Personality disorders have DNA and can skip some members of the family or hit others especially hard. Just like different eye colors, height, hair etc. Accepting what your daughter is will set you into a big emotional battle within yourself, because you can no longer actually talk to her, especially about the disorder, (she will reject it) so anytime you deal with her, this person you know and dislike will always be this way [I]unless[/I] she is "working" you in some way. It's a long and lonely road but this board is here for you. I am here for you. [/QUOTE]
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