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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 677798" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Okie and SS. Thinking of you both this morning.</p><p> Oh, this is my two. And you know what? There are some moments in my stumbling mistakes at parenting, that I do apologize for.</p><p>This is what our d cs latch onto, in the whole rewriting of their childhood, as well as laying blame for their choices on their parents. I had to learn not to fall into the trap of it. We are only human, we all make mistakes.</p><p></p><p> I LOVE this SS! To some, it may seem heartless, but to me, after so many years of being intertwined with their choices and consequences, I say AMEN! I love my two, but they are adults. I have done my parenting, and they are rejecting it, for now. I have not lost hope for them. But I think what I am trying so hard to accomplish now, is TRUE love. True love is not the sick, entangled desperation we go through when enmeshed with our d cs. True love is letting go and letting them test their wings. Answering their attempts at bashing, blaming and guilt laying not just with words, but actions...... "I refuse to be disrespected."</p><p></p><p> I emphatically agree 10000%. This is so well put.</p><p></p><p> YES.</p><p></p><p> We do deserve to be kind to ourselves. Switch the focus of worry and concern for our d cs, to taking better care of ourselves.</p><p><strong><em>Worry does nothing but take away joy. </em></strong>Worry does not one iota, help our d cs, and it hurts us.</p><p>How can we expect our d cs to respect us, if we do not respect ourselves?</p><p></p><p>My two daughters mistreat me, I want nothing to do with them, as long as this is their stance.</p><p>I LOVE them, but I do not like them, would not have them in my life as friends. They are not making right choices, and the biggest wrong choice, is trying to walk all over me. I AM DONE with that nonsense!!! UNACCEPTABLE!</p><p></p><p>They were raised differently, to care for themselves and others, to be respectful. Now, they do not reflect that. Maybe some day. Until that day, I will love them from afar. I have wasted too much of my life, pining away and worrying over their choices. NO MORE.....I still hold on to the hope that they will find their purpose and meaning in life. But, it is not in my power to make this happen, it is all up to them.</p><p></p><p>It is up to me, to take care of myself, and fulfill my purpose and meaning. </p><p>It is up to all of us, to achieve this. </p><p>By doing so, we are showing our d cs, what is possible for them.</p><p>That is true love.....If we<em><strong> really love our d cs,</strong></em> we will live the rest of our lives with gusto.</p><p> No more worrying, no more pining. </p><p>Living to the fullest.</p><p>Day by day, we will get there.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 677798, member: 19522"] Hi Okie and SS. Thinking of you both this morning. Oh, this is my two. And you know what? There are some moments in my stumbling mistakes at parenting, that I do apologize for. This is what our d cs latch onto, in the whole rewriting of their childhood, as well as laying blame for their choices on their parents. I had to learn not to fall into the trap of it. We are only human, we all make mistakes. I LOVE this SS! To some, it may seem heartless, but to me, after so many years of being intertwined with their choices and consequences, I say AMEN! I love my two, but they are adults. I have done my parenting, and they are rejecting it, for now. I have not lost hope for them. But I think what I am trying so hard to accomplish now, is TRUE love. True love is not the sick, entangled desperation we go through when enmeshed with our d cs. True love is letting go and letting them test their wings. Answering their attempts at bashing, blaming and guilt laying not just with words, but actions...... "I refuse to be disrespected." I emphatically agree 10000%. This is so well put. YES. We do deserve to be kind to ourselves. Switch the focus of worry and concern for our d cs, to taking better care of ourselves. [B][I]Worry does nothing but take away joy. [/I][/B]Worry does not one iota, help our d cs, and it hurts us. How can we expect our d cs to respect us, if we do not respect ourselves? My two daughters mistreat me, I want nothing to do with them, as long as this is their stance. I LOVE them, but I do not like them, would not have them in my life as friends. They are not making right choices, and the biggest wrong choice, is trying to walk all over me. I AM DONE with that nonsense!!! UNACCEPTABLE! They were raised differently, to care for themselves and others, to be respectful. Now, they do not reflect that. Maybe some day. Until that day, I will love them from afar. I have wasted too much of my life, pining away and worrying over their choices. NO MORE.....I still hold on to the hope that they will find their purpose and meaning in life. But, it is not in my power to make this happen, it is all up to them. It is up to me, to take care of myself, and fulfill my purpose and meaning. It is up to all of us, to achieve this. By doing so, we are showing our d cs, what is possible for them. That is true love.....If we[I][B] really love our d cs,[/B][/I] we will live the rest of our lives with gusto. No more worrying, no more pining. Living to the fullest. Day by day, we will get there. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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