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What is your relationship like with your 1st cousins?
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<blockquote data-quote="Pink Elephant" data-source="post: 737480" data-attributes="member: 21572"><p>Wish, I can relate to so much of what you've spoken of, pictures and things included.</p><p></p><p>I know it wasn't our family per se, but we tended to be shunned by a good number of relatives when we were kids. We were excluded from party invites, lake and beach get-togethers and gatherings and such, and whatever else happened to arise. As young ones, we were never wise to it, but my folks were, and I recall my mom talking about it with others in the family. I think for my mom, she took it hard, because my mom was always so giving, so offering. If someone needed help, mom was there for them, that's just the way she was, and in turn, she felt that others weren't there for her.</p><p></p><p>When I got older and learned of the rift, it created a divide, a sort of, <em>to heck with all of you,</em> attitude from me, and that I believe was the start of me not having much to do with many of my cousins. I also felt a duty to protect my mom and to side with her pain and frustration over the matter, so that made it easier for me to accept the lack of closeness.</p><p></p><p>To this day I still carry with me a sense that we were outsiders back in the day (with certain family), but being older now, I can hold my head up high and walk with pride, knowing their actions or lack thereof, more than likely contributed to such poor relations, and really, that's pudding in their faces as far as I'm concerned. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Pink Elephant, post: 737480, member: 21572"] Wish, I can relate to so much of what you've spoken of, pictures and things included. I know it wasn't our family per se, but we tended to be shunned by a good number of relatives when we were kids. We were excluded from party invites, lake and beach get-togethers and gatherings and such, and whatever else happened to arise. As young ones, we were never wise to it, but my folks were, and I recall my mom talking about it with others in the family. I think for my mom, she took it hard, because my mom was always so giving, so offering. If someone needed help, mom was there for them, that's just the way she was, and in turn, she felt that others weren't there for her. When I got older and learned of the rift, it created a divide, a sort of, [I]to heck with all of you,[/I] attitude from me, and that I believe was the start of me not having much to do with many of my cousins. I also felt a duty to protect my mom and to side with her pain and frustration over the matter, so that made it easier for me to accept the lack of closeness. To this day I still carry with me a sense that we were outsiders back in the day (with certain family), but being older now, I can hold my head up high and walk with pride, knowing their actions or lack thereof, more than likely contributed to such poor relations, and really, that's pudding in their faces as far as I'm concerned. :) [/QUOTE]
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