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What is your relationship like with your 1st cousins?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 737529" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This begs the question what is family?</p><p></p><p>Because someone gave birth to somebody scientifically your DNA ....that is family?</p><p></p><p>That is not my definition. Mine is who you feel connected to, whom you love, who loves you. Except for normal human compassion, why would anyone care deeply about the life of a stranger? I cant think of one reason to contact a stranger just because by chance they were born to somebody biologically connected to somebody I was. So what?i would never think to apologize that things werent different.</p><p></p><p>I would never think I was not as good as somebody else either. I used to. Slowly that faded away. Copa you should not feel inferior to ANYONE. So your cousin made more money than you? How does that make her a better person? Please explain. How does that make you inferior?</p><p></p><p>Wish, I define family way differently than most people do. </p><p></p><p>Long ago we did a family thread here and I got most of my story out and my frustration with it. Copa and Scent of Cedar listened to me.</p><p></p><p> We listwened to each other. That helped as much as therapy. Writing it out stopped most of my inner sadness about my DNA collection, as I call them. A family loves and nurtures you and you dont need to be related in a scientific way. </p><p></p><p>Because of the treatment of myself from babyhood on, I have never felt close connections to anyone in my family except for my grandmother .i i created my own amazing family of choice. They are all the family I need.</p><p></p><p>I have come from a miserable, disturbed 30 to a contented peaceful 64. The peaceful part started in my early 40s.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 737529, member: 1550"] This begs the question what is family? Because someone gave birth to somebody scientifically your DNA ....that is family? That is not my definition. Mine is who you feel connected to, whom you love, who loves you. Except for normal human compassion, why would anyone care deeply about the life of a stranger? I cant think of one reason to contact a stranger just because by chance they were born to somebody biologically connected to somebody I was. So what?i would never think to apologize that things werent different. I would never think I was not as good as somebody else either. I used to. Slowly that faded away. Copa you should not feel inferior to ANYONE. So your cousin made more money than you? How does that make her a better person? Please explain. How does that make you inferior? Wish, I define family way differently than most people do. Long ago we did a family thread here and I got most of my story out and my frustration with it. Copa and Scent of Cedar listened to me. We listwened to each other. That helped as much as therapy. Writing it out stopped most of my inner sadness about my DNA collection, as I call them. A family loves and nurtures you and you dont need to be related in a scientific way. Because of the treatment of myself from babyhood on, I have never felt close connections to anyone in my family except for my grandmother .i i created my own amazing family of choice. They are all the family I need. I have come from a miserable, disturbed 30 to a contented peaceful 64. The peaceful part started in my early 40s. [/QUOTE]
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