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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 192830" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>As I was out walking this morning - I was mulling over the question of what makes "Warrior Moms" different.</p><p></p><p>I have seen parents who have gone through similar - very painful circumstances with their children. Parents who have kids addicted to drugs, failing scholastically, with unplanned pregnancies, in prison, homeless etc. who somehow manage to remain amazingly objective. Parents who have adult kids making poor choices who manage to say "Well - they are adults." Parents who possess an amazing ability to detach. I mean really detach - not just in word - but in deed, and emotions.</p><p></p><p>I am not one of those parents. Don't ya think that by virtue of even being a member of this board makes us all unique? </p><p></p><p>I was talking with my mom a few days ago - and asked her why she never worried about us as we left the nest and struggled with really hard stuff. She was so matter of fact. She just never worried. Somehow when we left the physical confines of her home - we left her emotional worry radar. I envy that, but I don't get it.</p><p></p><p>Why do we intellectually understand detachment 101, but can't get our hearts/emotions to follow suit?</p><p></p><p>I so want to be better at this. I don't want to spend my entire lifetime worrying about and trying to fix stuff for my kids (and others close to me).</p><p></p><p>So what does make us different? Childhood experiences? Personality traits? A strong desire to control? A lifetime of loving 'broken' people? </p><p></p><p>I'm considering therapy to help me figure this out. But, I thought I'd throw this out there first - sometimes the best insights come from those who are in the same boat as we are.</p><p></p><p>Thoughts?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 192830, member: 1545"] As I was out walking this morning - I was mulling over the question of what makes "Warrior Moms" different. I have seen parents who have gone through similar - very painful circumstances with their children. Parents who have kids addicted to drugs, failing scholastically, with unplanned pregnancies, in prison, homeless etc. who somehow manage to remain amazingly objective. Parents who have adult kids making poor choices who manage to say "Well - they are adults." Parents who possess an amazing ability to detach. I mean really detach - not just in word - but in deed, and emotions. I am not one of those parents. Don't ya think that by virtue of even being a member of this board makes us all unique? I was talking with my mom a few days ago - and asked her why she never worried about us as we left the nest and struggled with really hard stuff. She was so matter of fact. She just never worried. Somehow when we left the physical confines of her home - we left her emotional worry radar. I envy that, but I don't get it. Why do we intellectually understand detachment 101, but can't get our hearts/emotions to follow suit? I so want to be better at this. I don't want to spend my entire lifetime worrying about and trying to fix stuff for my kids (and others close to me). So what does make us different? Childhood experiences? Personality traits? A strong desire to control? A lifetime of loving 'broken' people? I'm considering therapy to help me figure this out. But, I thought I'd throw this out there first - sometimes the best insights come from those who are in the same boat as we are. Thoughts? [/QUOTE]
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