lovemysons
Well-Known Member
Well, apparently I need a SERIOUS lesson in not enabling, not be used, etc.
I did a STUPID thing last night (Moderators yall are gonna have to revise my "wise warrior" status).
Police were at the door at 1am this morning...WHY? Well, husband was talking to them and ready to press charges against young difficult child for "going through our mailbox".
I realized the police were at the door so I came downstairs...husband was explaining the trouble young difficult child is into and that as far as he was concerned young difficult child needed to go to jail (apparently they had young difficult child and "friend" in squad car down the street).
I asked what was going on and found out about young difficult child going through the mailbox. Well, guess who's fault it was? YEP, MINE.
Young difficult child was on yahoo around 10pm last night and I thought it was daughter in law since that was the name being used. It was not daughter in law it was young difficult child. He told me he was "staying outside" I "LOL" and asked if they now have computers outside? He said no that he was at a friends right now. I told him that husband and I and easy child her girlfriend were leaving for Las Vegas tomorrow (I know another dumb thing to do) and told him I would "leave a pack of smokes in the bottom of my nightstand drawer" for him. Young difficult child asked if I would leave them in the mailbox instead.
I didn't even think. I just "did". I walked right out to our mailbox and put a pack of cigarettes in there. THEN...came back into the house and walked upstairs to get my purse, walked downstairs to office to get tape, and walked to the mailbox and taped a 20 dollar bill to the pack of cigarettes.
When am I gonna learn???
Needless to say husband was LIVID with me. "Why won't you let young difficult child hit bottom?" "I am sick and tired of giving him money!"..."Why do you let him USE you and DISRESPECT you like this?!?!"....etc.
You know it's not like young difficult child is in Afghanistan fighting for our country...Why am I giving him little "care packages". Sheesh!!!
I feel like such a fool this morning.
Please remind of why it hurts to ENABLE...apparently I have moments of great weakness and forget!
Thanks,
LMS
I did a STUPID thing last night (Moderators yall are gonna have to revise my "wise warrior" status).
Police were at the door at 1am this morning...WHY? Well, husband was talking to them and ready to press charges against young difficult child for "going through our mailbox".
I realized the police were at the door so I came downstairs...husband was explaining the trouble young difficult child is into and that as far as he was concerned young difficult child needed to go to jail (apparently they had young difficult child and "friend" in squad car down the street).
I asked what was going on and found out about young difficult child going through the mailbox. Well, guess who's fault it was? YEP, MINE.
Young difficult child was on yahoo around 10pm last night and I thought it was daughter in law since that was the name being used. It was not daughter in law it was young difficult child. He told me he was "staying outside" I "LOL" and asked if they now have computers outside? He said no that he was at a friends right now. I told him that husband and I and easy child her girlfriend were leaving for Las Vegas tomorrow (I know another dumb thing to do) and told him I would "leave a pack of smokes in the bottom of my nightstand drawer" for him. Young difficult child asked if I would leave them in the mailbox instead.
I didn't even think. I just "did". I walked right out to our mailbox and put a pack of cigarettes in there. THEN...came back into the house and walked upstairs to get my purse, walked downstairs to office to get tape, and walked to the mailbox and taped a 20 dollar bill to the pack of cigarettes.
When am I gonna learn???
Needless to say husband was LIVID with me. "Why won't you let young difficult child hit bottom?" "I am sick and tired of giving him money!"..."Why do you let him USE you and DISRESPECT you like this?!?!"....etc.
You know it's not like young difficult child is in Afghanistan fighting for our country...Why am I giving him little "care packages". Sheesh!!!
I feel like such a fool this morning.
Please remind of why it hurts to ENABLE...apparently I have moments of great weakness and forget!
Thanks,
LMS