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<blockquote data-quote="maxeygirls" data-source="post: 336925" data-attributes="member: 8869"><p>Don't lose hope! My husband was severely ADHD, did just under 4 years in the Army right out of high school and ruined a marriage(never one sided but he really pushed it), and then his life went straight to h-e-double hockey sticks and he did it to himself. mother in law and a friend bailed him out more times than I can count, his credit score resembled an item from McDonalds dollar menu and although I met him during an 'up' time when he had just gotten a new job and was doing well, we have seriously struggled. Adding a bipolar kid to the mix didnt help much Im sure but about two years ago he finally got a wake-up call. I filed for divorce, mother in law told him he couldn't move back home, and his friend had moved away. He moved in with some buddies, partied hard for a few months and realized his life was empty. He's on the right track now, but it's a pretty steep hill. </p><p>This is just what has worked for my husband:</p><p>Set boundaries, be prepared to watch her fail, only help her as long as she is willing to help herself. It's hard. Dealing with my husband sent my mother in law into anxiety and depression issues, heck it sent me there and I don't have any disorders. </p><p>If she wants to remain in your home then tell her she has to be held accountable for her actions and be willing to communicate. Explain that while it is ok to take a time out for a little while when things get to be too much, she needs to stay on track. Explain that if she has problems with you checking up on her or she does not want to communicate then she has to go. </p><p>This may or may not work for you, only you know the answer. If there is only one thing I ever learned from my mother it is that our job as parents is to make our children independent and sometimes it doesnt always go smoothly. </p><p>Good luck, my prayers are with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="maxeygirls, post: 336925, member: 8869"] Don't lose hope! My husband was severely ADHD, did just under 4 years in the Army right out of high school and ruined a marriage(never one sided but he really pushed it), and then his life went straight to h-e-double hockey sticks and he did it to himself. mother in law and a friend bailed him out more times than I can count, his credit score resembled an item from McDonalds dollar menu and although I met him during an 'up' time when he had just gotten a new job and was doing well, we have seriously struggled. Adding a bipolar kid to the mix didnt help much Im sure but about two years ago he finally got a wake-up call. I filed for divorce, mother in law told him he couldn't move back home, and his friend had moved away. He moved in with some buddies, partied hard for a few months and realized his life was empty. He's on the right track now, but it's a pretty steep hill. This is just what has worked for my husband: Set boundaries, be prepared to watch her fail, only help her as long as she is willing to help herself. It's hard. Dealing with my husband sent my mother in law into anxiety and depression issues, heck it sent me there and I don't have any disorders. If she wants to remain in your home then tell her she has to be held accountable for her actions and be willing to communicate. Explain that while it is ok to take a time out for a little while when things get to be too much, she needs to stay on track. Explain that if she has problems with you checking up on her or she does not want to communicate then she has to go. This may or may not work for you, only you know the answer. If there is only one thing I ever learned from my mother it is that our job as parents is to make our children independent and sometimes it doesnt always go smoothly. Good luck, my prayers are with you. [/QUOTE]
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