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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 765853" data-attributes="member: 18958">I am so sorry Josh has chosen to be this way.&nbsp; I will tell you very briefly what I think.I don't think this has anything at all to do with you. Much less, with your mental illness. I think who Josh is running from is himself. The truth of his life, a part of himself he fears or feelings he fears. It is much easier (and a lie) to put his parents' names on it.He clearly said, no. He does not want to talk. He did not leave the door open not even a crack. That is not because he doesn't love you. He is running from himself and doesn't love himself. Like Deni said, &quot;he is running from something.&quot;&nbsp; Himself.This is very common, in my experience.Until he comes to the point where he chooses to open the door, I think pushing him would lead to heartbreak. And would not accomplish what yu seek.As far as warning him off bad behavior and bad choices, it's not our place. That is the one thing I have learned and know by all these years on the board.&nbsp;&nbsp; I believe Josh will come back to you, in his own time.&nbsp; Meanwhile, I believe you have work to do (not that you asked--sorry) on self-acceptance.&nbsp; You had a &quot;crackup&quot; so to speak because life broke you. This happens to all of us. You have not one thing in the world to feel vulnerable about. You are very open. it is a gift. You are just perfect in my book. Own this.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 765853, member: 18958"] I am so sorry Josh has chosen to be this way. I will tell you very briefly what I think. I don't think this has anything at all to do with you. Much less, with your mental illness. I think who Josh is running from is himself. The truth of his life, a part of himself he fears or feelings he fears. It is much easier (and a lie) to put his parents' names on it. He clearly said, no. He does not want to talk. He did not leave the door open not even a crack. That is not because he doesn't love you. He is running from himself and doesn't love himself. Like Deni said, "he is running from something." Himself. This is very common, in my experience. Until he comes to the point where he chooses to open the door, I think pushing him would lead to heartbreak. And would not accomplish what yu seek. As far as warning him off bad behavior and bad choices, it's not our place. That is the one thing I have learned and know by all these years on the board. I believe Josh will come back to you, in his own time. Meanwhile, I believe you have work to do (not that you asked--sorry) on self-acceptance. You had a "crackup" so to speak because life broke you. This happens to all of us. You have not one thing in the world to feel vulnerable about. You are very open. it is a gift. You are just perfect in my book. Own this. [/QUOTE]

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