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<blockquote data-quote="Kat9" data-source="post: 766636" data-attributes="member: 34173"><p>This is an old post. My son ditched me also and we were estranged when he became a pastor. He thought he was in the perfect family approved by God himself. Recently his wife left him and took all his money. He still had some side work but lost his pastor support because his organization doesn’t allow divorce, He is losing his home he was owing on since the kids were infants and they are grown now, he still owes a Ton on the house as little has gone on principal and he must give ex wife half equity. So basically he’s underemployed, financially deep in debt now and about to be homeless, all while raising a teen still at home. He called me up apologizing for hurting me all these years and that he was wrong. I forgave him and even paid he’s lawyer bill even though he didn’t ask, we now chat a few times a week and he texts real often in between. When we were estranged it hurt the whole time. But I was proud of them and I had to just be glad he succeeded. It hurts me now to see him suffer. So it’s not worth praying God humbles him. That is worse! If he is humbled pray it brings him back but causes no serious harm. We don’t own our children. They are entrusted to us til they are grown. They are supposed to leave the nest. It’s Biblical. But estrangement is not. Have you asked the reason why your estranged? Maybe your daughter knows or can aske him. At least it will give you a bit of closure. My son didn’t come back to me until his late 40’s. It takes them a long time to see they are wrong. It’s mainly caused by immaturity. So know that it probably does not have anything to do with anything you did. Mine was mainly estranged from brainwashed by his grandmother when I divorced his dad even though I took him on many vacations and six flags and lots of things to try to keep his heart as a child. Nothing helped really. Even as a child I was tole rated. He loved his Granny and didn’t seem to know he could love more than one person. So not pressure him. That will drive him away. Pray and wait. He’ll probably come back much later on when his kids grow up and out him through troubles or something. Like I said. It’s immaturity and bad religious teachings from his church and a spirit of religion as in pharIsees. I’ve been there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kat9, post: 766636, member: 34173"] This is an old post. My son ditched me also and we were estranged when he became a pastor. He thought he was in the perfect family approved by God himself. Recently his wife left him and took all his money. He still had some side work but lost his pastor support because his organization doesn’t allow divorce, He is losing his home he was owing on since the kids were infants and they are grown now, he still owes a Ton on the house as little has gone on principal and he must give ex wife half equity. So basically he’s underemployed, financially deep in debt now and about to be homeless, all while raising a teen still at home. He called me up apologizing for hurting me all these years and that he was wrong. I forgave him and even paid he’s lawyer bill even though he didn’t ask, we now chat a few times a week and he texts real often in between. When we were estranged it hurt the whole time. But I was proud of them and I had to just be glad he succeeded. It hurts me now to see him suffer. So it’s not worth praying God humbles him. That is worse! If he is humbled pray it brings him back but causes no serious harm. We don’t own our children. They are entrusted to us til they are grown. They are supposed to leave the nest. It’s Biblical. But estrangement is not. Have you asked the reason why your estranged? Maybe your daughter knows or can aske him. At least it will give you a bit of closure. My son didn’t come back to me until his late 40’s. It takes them a long time to see they are wrong. It’s mainly caused by immaturity. So know that it probably does not have anything to do with anything you did. Mine was mainly estranged from brainwashed by his grandmother when I divorced his dad even though I took him on many vacations and six flags and lots of things to try to keep his heart as a child. Nothing helped really. Even as a child I was tole rated. He loved his Granny and didn’t seem to know he could love more than one person. So not pressure him. That will drive him away. Pray and wait. He’ll probably come back much later on when his kids grow up and out him through troubles or something. Like I said. It’s immaturity and bad religious teachings from his church and a spirit of religion as in pharIsees. I’ve been there. [/QUOTE]
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