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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 620739" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Wow,what an upbeat and positive post COM, I am really happy for you. I can relate to every part of your post too, this detachment really does have a certain trajectory within which we grow..........</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yup. I remember having a real 'anger phase' too. I often say detachment fits with the 5 stages of dying, not at all linear, they fly in at different times. And, they all lead to acceptance as you mentioned. </p><p></p><p>Personally, although the anger is tough to be in, I think it is cleansing. It burns up all the other feelings and after each episode, I always felt somehow refreshed by it. </p><p></p><p>I love that you feel energized, I feel that too. I was thinking the other day of that old saying by Margaret Mead......"post menopausal zest." I have been scurrying around with so much renewed energy, feeling vital and alive...........it is really GREAT! I think appropriate anger brings forth that renewed energy, pushes out that lethargy and malaise most of us have from living in the difficult child world.</p><p></p><p>I was tickled by your Lent project..........I would say that is the physical manifestation of the internal "cleansing"........... that need to lighten up and get rid of stuff.........all of this growth stuff happens on all levels, emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. I liked that you combined the spiritual and the physical. I think as we cast off all of that angst from difficult child and we grow ourselves, we DO lighten up considerably..........we want to throw off the old, get rid of all that unnecessary "stuff" which bogs us down.........simplicity becomes important. I am now a big believer in 'simplicity is better', it's US who complicate things. My step granddaughter calls me a "minimalist" .............at first I wasn't thrilled with that title, but now I really enjoy it!!</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You're doing an amazing job of this COM, really. And, I agree, it is a lifelong journey............and yet, in letting go of someone you love, in going through what it takes to do that............I think that is a profound undertaking for any of us to venture through...........and what occurs in the aftermath of that 'giant let go', along with what we have to go through in order to do it............I believe places us in the best position possible to <strong>really</strong> understand what acceptance means.............gives us that glimpse of 'unlimited joy' which<em> changes our lives in deep and sustaining ways..</em>.......there is no getting there, you're right...........you're already there!!! It's here in the NOW we want to be living.......the past is gone, the future isn't here...........the now is all that is...........ENJOY!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 620739, member: 13542"] Wow,what an upbeat and positive post COM, I am really happy for you. I can relate to every part of your post too, this detachment really does have a certain trajectory within which we grow.......... Yup. I remember having a real 'anger phase' too. I often say detachment fits with the 5 stages of dying, not at all linear, they fly in at different times. And, they all lead to acceptance as you mentioned. Personally, although the anger is tough to be in, I think it is cleansing. It burns up all the other feelings and after each episode, I always felt somehow refreshed by it. I love that you feel energized, I feel that too. I was thinking the other day of that old saying by Margaret Mead......"post menopausal zest." I have been scurrying around with so much renewed energy, feeling vital and alive...........it is really GREAT! I think appropriate anger brings forth that renewed energy, pushes out that lethargy and malaise most of us have from living in the difficult child world. I was tickled by your Lent project..........I would say that is the physical manifestation of the internal "cleansing"........... that need to lighten up and get rid of stuff.........all of this growth stuff happens on all levels, emotional, mental, physical and spiritual. I liked that you combined the spiritual and the physical. I think as we cast off all of that angst from difficult child and we grow ourselves, we DO lighten up considerably..........we want to throw off the old, get rid of all that unnecessary "stuff" which bogs us down.........simplicity becomes important. I am now a big believer in 'simplicity is better', it's US who complicate things. My step granddaughter calls me a "minimalist" .............at first I wasn't thrilled with that title, but now I really enjoy it!! You're doing an amazing job of this COM, really. And, I agree, it is a lifelong journey............and yet, in letting go of someone you love, in going through what it takes to do that............I think that is a profound undertaking for any of us to venture through...........and what occurs in the aftermath of that 'giant let go', along with what we have to go through in order to do it............I believe places us in the best position possible to [B]really[/B] understand what acceptance means.............gives us that glimpse of 'unlimited joy' which[I] changes our lives in deep and sustaining ways..[/I].......there is no getting there, you're right...........you're already there!!! It's here in the NOW we want to be living.......the past is gone, the future isn't here...........the now is all that is...........ENJOY! [/QUOTE]
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