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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 620750" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>If we ever do get to take that cruise together, we are going to sit and talk for hours. Or maybe we would have to have our computers and sit together and still post for hours...lol! Sometimes I can write it better than I can talk it. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for the affirmations, Cedar and RE. I read twice what you both said. </p><p></p><p>Yes, anger is cleansing and empowering and it makes me feel strong. I like it a lot better than sadness, which feels weak. Also necessary though.</p><p></p><p>What I don't want to do is shower him with my anger. And I could if I don't check myself. I did show him some anger on Tuesday. That's enough for now. </p><p></p><p>And Cedar, I like your thoughts about what he can be. And I agree that if someone thinks we can be better, that is important. Especially if that someone is our mother. But also attached to that is expectation---I don't want to have any after working so hard to rid myself as much as I can of expectation. And hope---I have that but I have to keep it distant. Telling him those things might reel me back in. </p><p></p><p>While I KNOW he can be more---no doubt, I want to learn to ACCEPT him just like he is (def. not there yet). Tough, tough line to walk. </p><p></p><p>If he calls me tomorrow, I really don't even have anything to say to him. Sadly, I don't think there is anything to talk about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 620750, member: 17542"] If we ever do get to take that cruise together, we are going to sit and talk for hours. Or maybe we would have to have our computers and sit together and still post for hours...lol! Sometimes I can write it better than I can talk it. Thanks for the affirmations, Cedar and RE. I read twice what you both said. Yes, anger is cleansing and empowering and it makes me feel strong. I like it a lot better than sadness, which feels weak. Also necessary though. What I don't want to do is shower him with my anger. And I could if I don't check myself. I did show him some anger on Tuesday. That's enough for now. And Cedar, I like your thoughts about what he can be. And I agree that if someone thinks we can be better, that is important. Especially if that someone is our mother. But also attached to that is expectation---I don't want to have any after working so hard to rid myself as much as I can of expectation. And hope---I have that but I have to keep it distant. Telling him those things might reel me back in. While I KNOW he can be more---no doubt, I want to learn to ACCEPT him just like he is (def. not there yet). Tough, tough line to walk. If he calls me tomorrow, I really don't even have anything to say to him. Sadly, I don't think there is anything to talk about. [/QUOTE]
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