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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 622075" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>This really spoke to me too. My brother-in-law has been very patient and supportive through many, many long and tearful phone calls. A couple of months ago I called him, once again in the midst of one of my rants about something difficult child had done, and brother in law cut me off and said "(Albatross), I don't know how else to make you understand this. I'm sorry to have to put it like this, but difficult child doesn't WANT you or husband in his life right now. He doesn't CARE. He just DOESN'T. So you need to STOP." It was cruel, but it was the only way I could hear it. He had tried many other times to tell me more gently, but I couldn't hear it. Now things aren't the same between me and brother in law, and I realize how badly I abused our relationship when I was so cocooned in all the chaos of trying to fix things for difficult child. It would be so nice to have that easy rapport that I used to have with brother in law, but I don't know if I ever will. It would be so good to be able to not see that guardedness in other people's faces, wondering if they should even ask about difficult child, hoping that if they do I won't go off the rails about it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 622075, member: 17720"] This really spoke to me too. My brother-in-law has been very patient and supportive through many, many long and tearful phone calls. A couple of months ago I called him, once again in the midst of one of my rants about something difficult child had done, and brother in law cut me off and said "(Albatross), I don't know how else to make you understand this. I'm sorry to have to put it like this, but difficult child doesn't WANT you or husband in his life right now. He doesn't CARE. He just DOESN'T. So you need to STOP." It was cruel, but it was the only way I could hear it. He had tried many other times to tell me more gently, but I couldn't hear it. Now things aren't the same between me and brother in law, and I realize how badly I abused our relationship when I was so cocooned in all the chaos of trying to fix things for difficult child. It would be so nice to have that easy rapport that I used to have with brother in law, but I don't know if I ever will. It would be so good to be able to not see that guardedness in other people's faces, wondering if they should even ask about difficult child, hoping that if they do I won't go off the rails about it. [/QUOTE]
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