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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 622533" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>COM, your post was an excellent rendition of what it means to establish personal boundaries for any of us, around any issue. I love it that you are walking the middle ~ not enabling, not turning him away. </p><p></p><p>A very nice job, COM.</p><p></p><p>I am starting to like your son, very much. I like it that he dealt with the library regarding the $2 fine. That tells me so much about him ~ that, and his choice of reading material. </p><p></p><p>I love it that you told him you are stepping out of his way so he can learn to be a man.</p><p></p><p>I have the sense that the two of you are probably closer now, in the midst of detachment and new patterns of response, than you have been in a long time.</p><p></p><p>I loved the honesty he came through with, once you made that clear.</p><p></p><p>I don't hear any judgment for this child of yours anymore, COM. You are a little proud of him now, aren't you?</p><p></p><p>This is how we can know we are on the right path. All at once, instead of hearing about what we owe them, we are hearing about our difficult children going to the library, or making French toast.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Happy for you, COM.</p><p></p><p>Really? I am happy for every child, for every parent as we learn to love them from this new perspective. It is hard to change old patterns, hard to see the benefit in it.</p><p></p><p>But the benefits to each of us, to mother and child both, are intense.</p><p></p><p>Very nice, COM. Thank you for sharing.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 622533, member: 17461"] COM, your post was an excellent rendition of what it means to establish personal boundaries for any of us, around any issue. I love it that you are walking the middle ~ not enabling, not turning him away. A very nice job, COM. I am starting to like your son, very much. I like it that he dealt with the library regarding the $2 fine. That tells me so much about him ~ that, and his choice of reading material. I love it that you told him you are stepping out of his way so he can learn to be a man. I have the sense that the two of you are probably closer now, in the midst of detachment and new patterns of response, than you have been in a long time. I loved the honesty he came through with, once you made that clear. I don't hear any judgment for this child of yours anymore, COM. You are a little proud of him now, aren't you? This is how we can know we are on the right path. All at once, instead of hearing about what we owe them, we are hearing about our difficult children going to the library, or making French toast. :O) Happy for you, COM. Really? I am happy for every child, for every parent as we learn to love them from this new perspective. It is hard to change old patterns, hard to see the benefit in it. But the benefits to each of us, to mother and child both, are intense. Very nice, COM. Thank you for sharing. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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