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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 622756" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>I wanted to give you an update on difficult child: Yesterday his phone came in the mail (not sure if state or fed. govt. provides this when you are on food stamps, but it is one of those) and so I FBed him this morning and said I can bring this to you. He responded and I took it to the day shelter. He got in the car for what is becoming our customary 10-minute conversation about once a week or so.</p><p></p><p>Friends, it went well for me. He saw his PO yesterday. He said the PO "doesn't like him being homeless." ...."In fact, Mom, he asked me are you sure your parents won't help you? No I said. And then he said, well give me your mom's number and I'll call her right now. I told him, Mom, that no, I don't think you better do that. It's not a good idea. And it won't change anything." difficult child said it a little sheepishly with a kind of knowing chuckle.</p><p></p><p>I said, "Well, that's interesting."</p><p></p><p>And so it went.</p><p></p><p>He eats dinner every night at the SA (I didn't know that, just learned that today) and then can eat bfast and lunch at the day shelter. Weekends a church in town has Saturday morning breakfast and another church has Sunday morning breakfast, he said. He is planning to sell his car and use that money to get a cheap vehicle plus some months of insurance, as he found out he still has his license and it isn't suspended for not paying his fines. He said his PO is getting his fines reduced to $15 a month. Somebody helped him with his resume last week and is helping him with jobs. Another somebody is getting him an interview with a halfway house on the phone soon. He "may" see if he can go back to the SA. His PO said it's hard to get a job without the employer knowing that you have reliable transportation, so that is why he is trying to sell his car and get something else. </p><p></p><p>(Car was in pristine condition when we found it several years ago, a gray Camry. He has completely trashed it and wrecked it multiple times. It now runs, but needs an O2 sensor and a headlight.)</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I said, "Well it sounds like you have a lot of good plans, and I'm sure you can make it happen honey."</p><p></p><p>Then we hugged, said I love you and I left.</p><p></p><p>I felt good. I stayed out of the way for the most part (I did ask a few questions, ugh) and I didn't feel the need to do anything. </p><p></p><p>He looked good and he sounded good, except he is "tired." He said last night he slept by himself in a downtown parking garage in the corner with two bookcases moved together. </p><p></p><p>You know, I didn't get upset at that. It's a lot warmer now and I can let that go.</p><p></p><p>And so it goes friends. I feel I have made a lot of progress and I am praying some of the things he talked about actually happen for him. You just never know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 622756, member: 17542"] I wanted to give you an update on difficult child: Yesterday his phone came in the mail (not sure if state or fed. govt. provides this when you are on food stamps, but it is one of those) and so I FBed him this morning and said I can bring this to you. He responded and I took it to the day shelter. He got in the car for what is becoming our customary 10-minute conversation about once a week or so. Friends, it went well for me. He saw his PO yesterday. He said the PO "doesn't like him being homeless." ...."In fact, Mom, he asked me are you sure your parents won't help you? No I said. And then he said, well give me your mom's number and I'll call her right now. I told him, Mom, that no, I don't think you better do that. It's not a good idea. And it won't change anything." difficult child said it a little sheepishly with a kind of knowing chuckle. I said, "Well, that's interesting." And so it went. He eats dinner every night at the SA (I didn't know that, just learned that today) and then can eat bfast and lunch at the day shelter. Weekends a church in town has Saturday morning breakfast and another church has Sunday morning breakfast, he said. He is planning to sell his car and use that money to get a cheap vehicle plus some months of insurance, as he found out he still has his license and it isn't suspended for not paying his fines. He said his PO is getting his fines reduced to $15 a month. Somebody helped him with his resume last week and is helping him with jobs. Another somebody is getting him an interview with a halfway house on the phone soon. He "may" see if he can go back to the SA. His PO said it's hard to get a job without the employer knowing that you have reliable transportation, so that is why he is trying to sell his car and get something else. (Car was in pristine condition when we found it several years ago, a gray Camry. He has completely trashed it and wrecked it multiple times. It now runs, but needs an O2 sensor and a headlight.) Anyway, I said, "Well it sounds like you have a lot of good plans, and I'm sure you can make it happen honey." Then we hugged, said I love you and I left. I felt good. I stayed out of the way for the most part (I did ask a few questions, ugh) and I didn't feel the need to do anything. He looked good and he sounded good, except he is "tired." He said last night he slept by himself in a downtown parking garage in the corner with two bookcases moved together. You know, I didn't get upset at that. It's a lot warmer now and I can let that go. And so it goes friends. I feel I have made a lot of progress and I am praying some of the things he talked about actually happen for him. You just never know. [/QUOTE]
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