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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 623948" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Recovering Enabler, you are SO welcome back, I'm sure by all, especially by me. I missed you.</p><p></p><p>COM, I refrained from posting as I have never had a child in jail and didn't want to pretend I know how horrible it is. However, I did want to comment on the letter. Although I haven't received letters, I've had phone conversations with my difficult children that were very similar to yours. I'm going to try to read through the words and I am so sorry you are hurting.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion, he is focusing on the "I am hungry" part because almost nothing makes us sicker than to hear that our kids are hungry. So I do think he is trying to make you feel guilty. The thing is, there ARE places to get free food and meals. You have to be willing to go there, but there are soup kitchens and, at the very worst, restaurants and grocery stories through out perfectly good food if they are old, I think. He must know the ways to get food. Does he have a food card? If so, why not? Did he not go through the steps you have to take to get one? Taking it a step further, could he now have still been at home, eating good meals, if he had followed probably the simple rules you set in place in order for him to live with you? I am trying to be logical and hopefully to soothe your guilt. His predicament is not your fault. But you know that. You are always so smart. You manage to do what you feel is best and you are very strong. </p><p></p><p>In spite of knowing when we are getting the guilt treatment, there is no doubt it is hard to just shut our eyes. We do have hearts. We do love our kids, no matter what they do. That's a mother's curse. </p><p></p><p>Gentle hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 623948, member: 1550"] Recovering Enabler, you are SO welcome back, I'm sure by all, especially by me. I missed you. COM, I refrained from posting as I have never had a child in jail and didn't want to pretend I know how horrible it is. However, I did want to comment on the letter. Although I haven't received letters, I've had phone conversations with my difficult children that were very similar to yours. I'm going to try to read through the words and I am so sorry you are hurting. in my opinion, he is focusing on the "I am hungry" part because almost nothing makes us sicker than to hear that our kids are hungry. So I do think he is trying to make you feel guilty. The thing is, there ARE places to get free food and meals. You have to be willing to go there, but there are soup kitchens and, at the very worst, restaurants and grocery stories through out perfectly good food if they are old, I think. He must know the ways to get food. Does he have a food card? If so, why not? Did he not go through the steps you have to take to get one? Taking it a step further, could he now have still been at home, eating good meals, if he had followed probably the simple rules you set in place in order for him to live with you? I am trying to be logical and hopefully to soothe your guilt. His predicament is not your fault. But you know that. You are always so smart. You manage to do what you feel is best and you are very strong. In spite of knowing when we are getting the guilt treatment, there is no doubt it is hard to just shut our eyes. We do have hearts. We do love our kids, no matter what they do. That's a mother's curse. Gentle hugs. [/QUOTE]
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