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What's your thought on heroin addicts drinking alochol?
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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 694253" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>What you want is immaterial. It's what HE wants that is important. At some point, he MAY be ready to work with a counselor, and yes, he may cry his eyes out. Or, he may never be ready to work with a counselor.</p><p></p><p>You have to separate your wants and needs from his wants and needs. That's called "detachment". This is HIS addiction, HIS recovery, HIS life, and you have to give him the space to recover in the way that's best for HIM.</p><p></p><p>That doesn't mean that you don't support him, don't tell him you love him and care about him. It does mean that you've got to respect him enough to let him lead the dance.</p><p></p><p>It may be that "faith-based" recovery isn't the best way for him. Who knows? He may need something more or something different.</p><p></p><p>Either way, he's very young and very young in his recovery. It may be a LONG time, if ever before he is ready to talk to you about his feelings.</p><p></p><p>You have to accept that.</p><p></p><p>Addicts don't get through the physical part of the withdrawal and magically become all better. Read Darkwing Psyduck's posts on this matter. He's been there, and has written some very erudite posts on the topic. He knows what he's talking about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 694253, member: 1963"] What you want is immaterial. It's what HE wants that is important. At some point, he MAY be ready to work with a counselor, and yes, he may cry his eyes out. Or, he may never be ready to work with a counselor. You have to separate your wants and needs from his wants and needs. That's called "detachment". This is HIS addiction, HIS recovery, HIS life, and you have to give him the space to recover in the way that's best for HIM. That doesn't mean that you don't support him, don't tell him you love him and care about him. It does mean that you've got to respect him enough to let him lead the dance. It may be that "faith-based" recovery isn't the best way for him. Who knows? He may need something more or something different. Either way, he's very young and very young in his recovery. It may be a LONG time, if ever before he is ready to talk to you about his feelings. You have to accept that. Addicts don't get through the physical part of the withdrawal and magically become all better. Read Darkwing Psyduck's posts on this matter. He's been there, and has written some very erudite posts on the topic. He knows what he's talking about. [/QUOTE]
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