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What's your thought on heroin addicts drinking alochol?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 694256" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree with Going. I think you are getting too wrapped up with what you should or should not do, as if it has a bearing at all on what he does or thinks.</p><p></p><p>I do not see that you have a role one way or another in his recovery except setting limits as you did so beautifully before when he relapsed. This is not about your effort or thinking or doing. It is about his own.</p><p></p><p>I strongly urged my son to see a therapist. I am not certain if it was the right or wrong thing to do. Your son (and mine) know about therapists.</p><p></p><p>I think it is the hardest thing in the world to sit there when somebody you love as much as you love your son, is lost and unsure and is struggling. When we know every bit of what would make a good and right life. For us.</p><p></p><p>But any shoring up or pushing or pulling or rewarding or influencing or incentivizing we do <em>is for us</em>. To avoid the horrible helplessness and thwarted sense of responsibility that we feel and want to discharge in some way by doing something. COM speaks of this frequently, about the need to STOP. And detach. She has posted a bit on this on my current thread. I always find it true and helpful. I have a very hard time with this kind of stillness. I know she is right.</p><p></p><p>It is if all we do sometimes, we mothers, is splash in the water. Thinking we are doing something helpful and correct, we just end up all wet.</p><p></p><p>Lovemyson. Every post you write your love for your son and family seeps through it. Do not worry. Do not try to take his own responsibilities on yourself. It will not help him. Love him. That is all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 694256, member: 18958"] I agree with Going. I think you are getting too wrapped up with what you should or should not do, as if it has a bearing at all on what he does or thinks. I do not see that you have a role one way or another in his recovery except setting limits as you did so beautifully before when he relapsed. This is not about your effort or thinking or doing. It is about his own. I strongly urged my son to see a therapist. I am not certain if it was the right or wrong thing to do. Your son (and mine) know about therapists. I think it is the hardest thing in the world to sit there when somebody you love as much as you love your son, is lost and unsure and is struggling. When we know every bit of what would make a good and right life. For us. But any shoring up or pushing or pulling or rewarding or influencing or incentivizing we do [I]is for us[/I]. To avoid the horrible helplessness and thwarted sense of responsibility that we feel and want to discharge in some way by doing something. COM speaks of this frequently, about the need to STOP. And detach. She has posted a bit on this on my current thread. I always find it true and helpful. I have a very hard time with this kind of stillness. I know she is right. It is if all we do sometimes, we mothers, is splash in the water. Thinking we are doing something helpful and correct, we just end up all wet. Lovemyson. Every post you write your love for your son and family seeps through it. Do not worry. Do not try to take his own responsibilities on yourself. It will not help him. Love him. That is all. [/QUOTE]
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