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when do you just let them do what they want?
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<blockquote data-quote="mom_in_training" data-source="post: 29469" data-attributes="member: 2727"><p>He does not hate you, He just hates having to abide by rules. I think its pretty safe to say that the majority here have had the same issue with their kiddos disrespect. I suppose its just a matter of what you allow him to get away with. He will continue the behavior so long as he is getting away with it. Think up some consequences for bad mouthing you and stick to it. As far as drugs? My difficult child lost interest in school along with the normal everyday things that she once enjoyed including her horses and low and behold I discovered that she was smoking pot. She was out of control, Leaving whenever she wanted blowing me off, Disrespecting me like she had never done before, Not abiding by her curfew and coming home at her convenience sometimes drunk. I put her in a program that Teen Challenge offers that includes a tour of Juvenile Hall and she went through counceling. I also started random drug testing screening at home for Pot, Opiates, cocaine, Heroin. You can purchase the drug testing kits at Wal-Mart. They have one that will just test for pot but I opted to get the 4 panal that tested for the drugs listed above. They also have a 7 panal that will test for all of the above plus Methamphetamines (Meth), Ecstasy, Amphetamines, Phencyclidine (PCP). I just learned too that they now have a 12 panal test kit as well at <a href="http://www.firstcheckfamily.com/" target="_blank">http://www.firstcheckfamily.com/</a></p><p></p><p>Just a thought, I never thought that my difficult child would get into drugs but she did and unfortunately has gone onto the bigger drugs. Put your foot down and know that you do not deserve to be treated with disrespect in your own home. I drew the line for my difficult child based on the fact that I would never allow a stranger to disrespect me in my own home, Just because she is who she is (My Daughter) does not justify it either and its not acceptible to me. I absolutly refuse to walk on eggshells in my own home. As far as providing all of the tools, I did the same, She was willing with some but not others. Its like the parent is grasping for straws in the hopes that your difficult child would grasp on to the tools that are given to make a difference. Its all an individual choice as far as changing any behavior. You are doing what you need to be doing. I hope it improves for ya. I will pray along with ya. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_in_training, post: 29469, member: 2727"] He does not hate you, He just hates having to abide by rules. I think its pretty safe to say that the majority here have had the same issue with their kiddos disrespect. I suppose its just a matter of what you allow him to get away with. He will continue the behavior so long as he is getting away with it. Think up some consequences for bad mouthing you and stick to it. As far as drugs? My difficult child lost interest in school along with the normal everyday things that she once enjoyed including her horses and low and behold I discovered that she was smoking pot. She was out of control, Leaving whenever she wanted blowing me off, Disrespecting me like she had never done before, Not abiding by her curfew and coming home at her convenience sometimes drunk. I put her in a program that Teen Challenge offers that includes a tour of Juvenile Hall and she went through counceling. I also started random drug testing screening at home for Pot, Opiates, cocaine, Heroin. You can purchase the drug testing kits at Wal-Mart. They have one that will just test for pot but I opted to get the 4 panal that tested for the drugs listed above. They also have a 7 panal that will test for all of the above plus Methamphetamines (Meth), Ecstasy, Amphetamines, Phencyclidine (PCP). I just learned too that they now have a 12 panal test kit as well at [url="http://www.firstcheckfamily.com/"]http://www.firstcheckfamily.com/[/url] Just a thought, I never thought that my difficult child would get into drugs but she did and unfortunately has gone onto the bigger drugs. Put your foot down and know that you do not deserve to be treated with disrespect in your own home. I drew the line for my difficult child based on the fact that I would never allow a stranger to disrespect me in my own home, Just because she is who she is (My Daughter) does not justify it either and its not acceptible to me. I absolutly refuse to walk on eggshells in my own home. As far as providing all of the tools, I did the same, She was willing with some but not others. Its like the parent is grasping for straws in the hopes that your difficult child would grasp on to the tools that are given to make a difference. Its all an individual choice as far as changing any behavior. You are doing what you need to be doing. I hope it improves for ya. I will pray along with ya. :-) [/QUOTE]
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