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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 117887"><p>difficult child's therapist actually prescribed arguing therapy at one time when difficult child was doing this. I'm sure you know what it's like to have a kid that can and would argue with a wall. Nothing I said or did was right. If she asked me what time it was and I said 3:00 she'd say, no, it's not; it's 3:01. :faint:</p><p></p><p>She recommended I say to difficult child that it seems like she really needs to argue so ok, let's argue. And then make up some mock thing - kinda goofy even - to argue about. It really took the wind out of her sails. She didn't know how to respond. Then she tried to be annoyed, but she couldn't keep the smile from creeping onto her face. Then I'd say, oh no. No smiling allowed. We're arguing. Then, of course, she'd start laughing.</p><p></p><p>It might not work with all kids and not with all moods. I really had to watch how difficult child's mood was before using it. If she was really over the top, it would just push her all the way into a rage. But, if she was just arguing for the sake of arguing it would work. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes I think it's a habit they get into. They're so used to using that as their outlet, that they don't know any other way. I guess it becomes a coping mechanism. For everything. difficult child still argues with me, of course. But not over everything. It helped her to find other ways to diffuse the situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 117887"] difficult child's therapist actually prescribed arguing therapy at one time when difficult child was doing this. I'm sure you know what it's like to have a kid that can and would argue with a wall. Nothing I said or did was right. If she asked me what time it was and I said 3:00 she'd say, no, it's not; it's 3:01. [img]:faint:[/img] She recommended I say to difficult child that it seems like she really needs to argue so ok, let's argue. And then make up some mock thing - kinda goofy even - to argue about. It really took the wind out of her sails. She didn't know how to respond. Then she tried to be annoyed, but she couldn't keep the smile from creeping onto her face. Then I'd say, oh no. No smiling allowed. We're arguing. Then, of course, she'd start laughing. It might not work with all kids and not with all moods. I really had to watch how difficult child's mood was before using it. If she was really over the top, it would just push her all the way into a rage. But, if she was just arguing for the sake of arguing it would work. Sometimes I think it's a habit they get into. They're so used to using that as their outlet, that they don't know any other way. I guess it becomes a coping mechanism. For everything. difficult child still argues with me, of course. But not over everything. It helped her to find other ways to diffuse the situation. [/QUOTE]
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