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<blockquote data-quote="WhymeMom?" data-source="post: 92014" data-attributes="member: 53"><p>Well he is obviously pushing you away....so I think I would send a card, and forget any gifts, doesn't sound like he appreciates them anyway.....</p><p></p><p>As much as you want to be a part of his life it doesn't look like its going to happen. Concentrate on your other kids and just send cards for occasions. </p><p></p><p>I know you think the wife caused a seperation between you, but she may be the way to get to him if you can't give up having this broken relationship. Start out by sending cards to her, sending her a daughter-in-law birthday card. Anything that will accent the "connection" of family. Any gift you may send buy something that she would use more than he would.... She obviously values her family connections so might have some respect for your relationship as adoptive parents. He has closed the door, but she may have left a window open....</p><p></p><p>In the end I think you are running into a brick wall. He seems to be hung up on blood family (his wife's) and has compartmentalized that you don't fall into that category. I think it will only cause you grief to think you will ever be a part of his life. Sorry he has turned to this thinking.....</p><p></p><p>Rejoice in the family that acknowledges you.......and let him go...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WhymeMom?, post: 92014, member: 53"] Well he is obviously pushing you away....so I think I would send a card, and forget any gifts, doesn't sound like he appreciates them anyway..... As much as you want to be a part of his life it doesn't look like its going to happen. Concentrate on your other kids and just send cards for occasions. I know you think the wife caused a seperation between you, but she may be the way to get to him if you can't give up having this broken relationship. Start out by sending cards to her, sending her a daughter-in-law birthday card. Anything that will accent the "connection" of family. Any gift you may send buy something that she would use more than he would.... She obviously values her family connections so might have some respect for your relationship as adoptive parents. He has closed the door, but she may have left a window open.... In the end I think you are running into a brick wall. He seems to be hung up on blood family (his wife's) and has compartmentalized that you don't fall into that category. I think it will only cause you grief to think you will ever be a part of his life. Sorry he has turned to this thinking..... Rejoice in the family that acknowledges you.......and let him go... [/QUOTE]
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