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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 749131" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>Thank you. I understand about being an animal lover. I am too. We raised one of her dogs along with ours years ago. We just had to put our 17 year old hyperthyroid cat to sleep. So, I get that. May isn't employed. She lives on people's couches and has for several years now, that is until she gets kicked out for her abusive behavior. She started out staying with friends, now she stays with strangers. She used to be a social butterfly, now she has exhausted all her friendships. She is 1300 miles away from us right now. She has been in detox and says she will never go back to that kind of place again. The alcohol, adderall, xanax, and now possibly meth is the medication she uses for her personality disorder. She needs somebody to take the dogs for free. I looked into boarding them, because we found an inpatient place in another state for 90 days that will take her Medicaid. That would be followed up intensive outpatient therapy for another 30 days. It's over $60/day. We are elderly and are coming to the place where we are going to need help before much longer. May only has Medicaid and food stamps. She refuses to look for work or apply for disability. She has over $100,000 in credit card debt because of gambling. The last boyfriend paid off the credit card debt from before, so she was able to get more credit cards. About 5 years ago one of her wealthy friends flew her and the dogs to the east coast so May could help her recover from a surgery. She called me and said she had no idea May was such an alcoholic and that they couldn't handle her abuse, even accused her husband of trying to get fresh with her. They offered to send her to treatment there and pay for all of it. She refused. Then they couldn't figure out how to get her out because she was clear across the country. We intervened twice. The first time she tried to mow me down with a clothing rack after she had threatened suicide. She did this while I was on the phone with the crisis line, so they sent the police. May came up with some cockamamie story and tried to have my sister and me thrown in jail. The police simply shoot their head. Then comes the Mental Health counselor. May talked them all out of taking her for help. At the time, we were in a position to take the dogs. Then she moved to another state. Again, threaten suicide, and wouldn't answer her phone. I had no idea where she was, so the local police there couldn't do a well check. By luck I had kept a number of one of her friends there. Her friend said she tried to take her in, but her boyfriend immediately said May had to go. She thought she knew where she might be. She went there and said she was there and found her room, but May would not answer. Now, we have an address. The police do a well-check and say she did answer, and was refusing to go, even though the kind office said it was obvious she needed professional help. We had to make arrangements for our cat and then we were out the door for a 6 hour drive. She answered the door. It was obvious she was drunk and drugged. She has fought depression for a long time. Our church was willing to help, but she refused. There's more to the story, but the long and short of it is we tried to get her to go back home with us. But, she had met a new guy. She couldn't leave because she needed new tires (which I gave her money for more than once). After 3 days there, we had to get back home. On our arrival home, she called to say she was staying there and just send the money for the tires as rent to the boyfriend. It's been a very long journey.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 749131, member: 23811"] Thank you. I understand about being an animal lover. I am too. We raised one of her dogs along with ours years ago. We just had to put our 17 year old hyperthyroid cat to sleep. So, I get that. May isn't employed. She lives on people's couches and has for several years now, that is until she gets kicked out for her abusive behavior. She started out staying with friends, now she stays with strangers. She used to be a social butterfly, now she has exhausted all her friendships. She is 1300 miles away from us right now. She has been in detox and says she will never go back to that kind of place again. The alcohol, adderall, xanax, and now possibly meth is the medication she uses for her personality disorder. She needs somebody to take the dogs for free. I looked into boarding them, because we found an inpatient place in another state for 90 days that will take her Medicaid. That would be followed up intensive outpatient therapy for another 30 days. It's over $60/day. We are elderly and are coming to the place where we are going to need help before much longer. May only has Medicaid and food stamps. She refuses to look for work or apply for disability. She has over $100,000 in credit card debt because of gambling. The last boyfriend paid off the credit card debt from before, so she was able to get more credit cards. About 5 years ago one of her wealthy friends flew her and the dogs to the east coast so May could help her recover from a surgery. She called me and said she had no idea May was such an alcoholic and that they couldn't handle her abuse, even accused her husband of trying to get fresh with her. They offered to send her to treatment there and pay for all of it. She refused. Then they couldn't figure out how to get her out because she was clear across the country. We intervened twice. The first time she tried to mow me down with a clothing rack after she had threatened suicide. She did this while I was on the phone with the crisis line, so they sent the police. May came up with some cockamamie story and tried to have my sister and me thrown in jail. The police simply shoot their head. Then comes the Mental Health counselor. May talked them all out of taking her for help. At the time, we were in a position to take the dogs. Then she moved to another state. Again, threaten suicide, and wouldn't answer her phone. I had no idea where she was, so the local police there couldn't do a well check. By luck I had kept a number of one of her friends there. Her friend said she tried to take her in, but her boyfriend immediately said May had to go. She thought she knew where she might be. She went there and said she was there and found her room, but May would not answer. Now, we have an address. The police do a well-check and say she did answer, and was refusing to go, even though the kind office said it was obvious she needed professional help. We had to make arrangements for our cat and then we were out the door for a 6 hour drive. She answered the door. It was obvious she was drunk and drugged. She has fought depression for a long time. Our church was willing to help, but she refused. There's more to the story, but the long and short of it is we tried to get her to go back home with us. But, she had met a new guy. She couldn't leave because she needed new tires (which I gave her money for more than once). After 3 days there, we had to get back home. On our arrival home, she called to say she was staying there and just send the money for the tires as rent to the boyfriend. It's been a very long journey. [/QUOTE]
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