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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 741161" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>I have two other sons who also don't identify themselves as disabled. One a smart, capable addict. The other who might be labeled neurologically impaired. But he's capable of maintaining a part time waiter job for a year at a time. I have concerns about these two as well. Neither will collect any kind of social services. The latter has ADHD and impulsivity makes him hopeless with money.</p><p></p><p>I've come to terms with the reality that I can't leave money to any of mine. I could leave a trust or annuity. The annuity would work best. Just a little bit of cash every month would provide food and utilities. They may use it inappropriately. But it wouldn't be so much as to support a drug habit or make them attractive to thieves.</p><p></p><p>My real conclusion is that what they most need is housing. So I intend to find "permanent" housing for each of them. Nothing is ever permanent and no matter what I do they could mess it up. But if I can buy some sort of multi family housing owned by a trust I might be able to help each of them. Each needs a different setting. The one at home with me will need a group home on this property. The other two some kind of apartment. Maybe over a garage or maybe a duplex. Maybe a "tiny house" for each. I don't know yet. But this is what I'm thinking. Its very complex. Eg the behavior of the older two cannot affect the group home. </p><p></p><p>I'm suggesting that we need to think outside the box for special needs situations.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 741161, member: 23371"] I have two other sons who also don't identify themselves as disabled. One a smart, capable addict. The other who might be labeled neurologically impaired. But he's capable of maintaining a part time waiter job for a year at a time. I have concerns about these two as well. Neither will collect any kind of social services. The latter has ADHD and impulsivity makes him hopeless with money. I've come to terms with the reality that I can't leave money to any of mine. I could leave a trust or annuity. The annuity would work best. Just a little bit of cash every month would provide food and utilities. They may use it inappropriately. But it wouldn't be so much as to support a drug habit or make them attractive to thieves. My real conclusion is that what they most need is housing. So I intend to find "permanent" housing for each of them. Nothing is ever permanent and no matter what I do they could mess it up. But if I can buy some sort of multi family housing owned by a trust I might be able to help each of them. Each needs a different setting. The one at home with me will need a group home on this property. The other two some kind of apartment. Maybe over a garage or maybe a duplex. Maybe a "tiny house" for each. I don't know yet. But this is what I'm thinking. Its very complex. Eg the behavior of the older two cannot affect the group home. I'm suggesting that we need to think outside the box for special needs situations. [/QUOTE]
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