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When will my son start helping himself?
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<blockquote data-quote="bertie" data-source="post: 204342" data-attributes="member: 965"><p>Hi all, haven't been here for a little while. I have a 19 y/o difficult child in Washington state who is unmedicated, had some money for a while, and has spent all of it. </p><p></p><p>He is living with a friend and his mother in an apartment. Since I've told him he's out of money, he's been coming up with some pretty amazing stories (i.e. lies) to try to get ME to support him. I'm not doing it. I've told him over and over: "You need to start doing things on your own. I love you, but I won't support you. I will help you, but only if I see you helping yourself."</p><p></p><p>Goes in one ear and out the other. Still lies to me to try to get money. We have friends who live in the same apartment complex who care very much about me, and they tell me the truth about what's really going on with difficult child. </p><p></p><p>I guess I'm just wondering: what will it take for him to realize HE is in charge of his life? He just sent me a text saying that his friend's mother is going to kick him out of the apartment, and I responded by telling him to go to DSHS and apply for food stamps and low-income housing. </p><p></p><p>I'm tired. I'm SO done with this and I am not doing it anymore. His problems are his, and they're not mine. I'm just wondering - will he ever start learning? </p><p></p><p>Bertie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bertie, post: 204342, member: 965"] Hi all, haven't been here for a little while. I have a 19 y/o difficult child in Washington state who is unmedicated, had some money for a while, and has spent all of it. He is living with a friend and his mother in an apartment. Since I've told him he's out of money, he's been coming up with some pretty amazing stories (i.e. lies) to try to get ME to support him. I'm not doing it. I've told him over and over: "You need to start doing things on your own. I love you, but I won't support you. I will help you, but only if I see you helping yourself." Goes in one ear and out the other. Still lies to me to try to get money. We have friends who live in the same apartment complex who care very much about me, and they tell me the truth about what's really going on with difficult child. I guess I'm just wondering: what will it take for him to realize HE is in charge of his life? He just sent me a text saying that his friend's mother is going to kick him out of the apartment, and I responded by telling him to go to DSHS and apply for food stamps and low-income housing. I'm tired. I'm SO done with this and I am not doing it anymore. His problems are his, and they're not mine. I'm just wondering - will he ever start learning? Bertie [/QUOTE]
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