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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 765560" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Hello Liz. The advice already presented has been spot on. Your son has shown himself to be dangerous. He can not live in your home. Period. If he doesn’t want to at least go to counseling sessions, that’s on him. Detachment and boundaries are big helpers in these situations. Since he is under 21 , you MIGHT consider some MINIMAL and limited&nbsp; help IF you can afford it like paying for his cell phone or 1/2 his electric bill (proof of bill needed) IF and ONLY IF he is CIVIL to you. (Don’t let any help spread. It would be generous to do something like this) .&nbsp; I do believe our children take longer to mature…but then again if zero efforts are being made…longer turns into forever. Meanwhile, along with putting boundaries in place (like he will never live in your home again and he is not to be abusive to you in any way) , get rid of the guilt pronto. All of us have to grow , learn from consequences, make good decisions and certainly do not have any right to hurt others. Please consider counseling for yourself, at least for the short term. There are also great “anonymous” groups out there. We went for a short time to Families Anonymous and really benefited by it. (((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 765560, member: 4152"] Hello Liz. The advice already presented has been spot on. Your son has shown himself to be dangerous. He can not live in your home. Period. If he doesn’t want to at least go to counseling sessions, that’s on him. Detachment and boundaries are big helpers in these situations. Since he is under 21 , you MIGHT consider some MINIMAL and limited help IF you can afford it like paying for his cell phone or 1/2 his electric bill (proof of bill needed) IF and ONLY IF he is CIVIL to you. (Don’t let any help spread. It would be generous to do something like this) . I do believe our children take longer to mature…but then again if zero efforts are being made…longer turns into forever. Meanwhile, along with putting boundaries in place (like he will never live in your home again and he is not to be abusive to you in any way) , get rid of the guilt pronto. All of us have to grow , learn from consequences, make good decisions and certainly do not have any right to hurt others. Please consider counseling for yourself, at least for the short term. There are also great “anonymous” groups out there. We went for a short time to Families Anonymous and really benefited by it. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]

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