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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 619448" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>DadinMinn, just to drive this point home, be very cautious of your sons retribution for your act of detachment. Our kids can be considerably abusive to us when the gravy train stops. And, you have two of them. I don't know if they are violent or abusive however, you may want to consider changing your locks if they had keys and look into restraining orders. They may not have left town just because you think they did, doesn't mean they did. </p><p></p><p>Our kids can be exceedingly sneaky and remarkably resourceful. They use manipulation and prey on the kindness of strangers with horrific stories of neglect and abuse by US! They couch surf for years. My 41 year old daughter has not worked and has surfed others couches and not paid a nickel in rent for almost 5 years. She has not worked in years but manages to survive quite well under the circumstances. Of course, others are footing the bills, but that is their choice as well.</p><p></p><p>What I want to say to you is to be careful. Watch your back. Make sure they are really gone. Keep your home safe. It would not be above our adult kids to break back into your home, steal everything and trash it. Protect yourselves, your home and your valuables. If your sons feel desperate, they will act in desperate ways.</p><p></p><p>And, make very sure you and your wife seek some help and learn as much as you can about detachment and get those tools under your belts as you make sure you have support and that you are being<strong> very kind </strong>to yourselves...........this stuff is very, very hard. We all know that here.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting, it helps to clarify our thoughts and feelings and also to get support from others who've been there................as always, wishing you both peace of mind............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 619448, member: 13542"] DadinMinn, just to drive this point home, be very cautious of your sons retribution for your act of detachment. Our kids can be considerably abusive to us when the gravy train stops. And, you have two of them. I don't know if they are violent or abusive however, you may want to consider changing your locks if they had keys and look into restraining orders. They may not have left town just because you think they did, doesn't mean they did. Our kids can be exceedingly sneaky and remarkably resourceful. They use manipulation and prey on the kindness of strangers with horrific stories of neglect and abuse by US! They couch surf for years. My 41 year old daughter has not worked and has surfed others couches and not paid a nickel in rent for almost 5 years. She has not worked in years but manages to survive quite well under the circumstances. Of course, others are footing the bills, but that is their choice as well. What I want to say to you is to be careful. Watch your back. Make sure they are really gone. Keep your home safe. It would not be above our adult kids to break back into your home, steal everything and trash it. Protect yourselves, your home and your valuables. If your sons feel desperate, they will act in desperate ways. And, make very sure you and your wife seek some help and learn as much as you can about detachment and get those tools under your belts as you make sure you have support and that you are being[B] very kind [/B]to yourselves...........this stuff is very, very hard. We all know that here. Keep posting, it helps to clarify our thoughts and feelings and also to get support from others who've been there................as always, wishing you both peace of mind............ [/QUOTE]
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