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Where does Caring end and Enabling begin
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 722559" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>hi too long.</p><p></p><p>i think you are in a tough spot as his payee. soc sec has volunteers who are trained who will do it. i wonder if that might be better for you and for him. that way you can determine what you gift to him or not, based purely on how you think and feel about it. not having to feel guilt or conflict because you consider your own needs. or have to consider your obligation as payee.</p><p></p><p>i forget. what is his diagnosis? i am trying to get a mental picture of son. </p><p></p><p>you are doing a hard, hard thing. i would have bought the food, the jacket, and would have probably given the money too. </p><p></p><p>whether or not each is enabling is not the only point. </p><p></p><p>as cedar used to say. we have to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror.</p><p></p><p>you are his mother. and he is your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 722559, member: 18958"] hi too long. i think you are in a tough spot as his payee. soc sec has volunteers who are trained who will do it. i wonder if that might be better for you and for him. that way you can determine what you gift to him or not, based purely on how you think and feel about it. not having to feel guilt or conflict because you consider your own needs. or have to consider your obligation as payee. i forget. what is his diagnosis? i am trying to get a mental picture of son. you are doing a hard, hard thing. i would have bought the food, the jacket, and would have probably given the money too. whether or not each is enabling is not the only point. as cedar used to say. we have to be able to look at ourselves in the mirror. you are his mother. and he is your son. [/QUOTE]
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