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<blockquote data-quote="Mirabelle" data-source="post: 762038" data-attributes="member: 28712"><p>Hello Copabanana,</p><p></p><p>Thank you for your reply to my post. I am sorry to hear what you have experienced with your own son. I can certainly empathize. As you described, it is a dreadful conundrum to find yourself in trying to guide a legal adult with all the sense and judgement of a goose. Sense cannot be talked to my stepson at all. He actually admitted to my husband last week (and not in an angry or retaliatory way, just matter of factly) that he pretends to take in all the advice we give him but never intends on actually following through with it. (At least he was honest.)</p><p></p><p>At the moment he is obsessed with getting his hands on all of the disability money we have saved for him, approximately $3000. He is currently living at the homeless shelter, waiting on ACT to arrange supported housing. Although he has no bills and three meals a day, he insists that he needs $100 a day to survive 'on the streets'. My husband is placing $15 a day in his bank account for vapes and snacks etc. but this is not enough. He has an inexplicable tendency to spend money on things he simply 'must' have, for example clothes, jewellery, and DoorDash takeout deliveries. (Yes, he called DoorDash to deliver to the shelter.) But when he gets these things he wears the shirt one time, and takes two bites out of his $35 food order, and the next day insists he must have money for the same things all over again. When he was living in our outbuilding, his Dad would take him to the store to spend some of his money on groceries - a junk food bonanza of his own choosing. A few days later he would insist he had no food, but the outbuilding contained 12 Coke bottles with two sips taken out of each one, an open but full box of cereal, popped bags of uneaten popcorn etc. He is blowing up my husband's phone relentlessly, pressuring him into giving him 'his money'. Social Security deemed him unfit to be in control of this money at the time of his application being approved, so we have set up a savings account for him which he does not have access to. If he got hold of all the money it would be spent in about 2 weeks flat on absolutely nothing. We don't know how to stop this other than to continue to ignore him. His father is ready to pull up stumps and move away, depleted and depressed, as you say. </p><p></p><p>Thank you again for sharing your story and a sympathetic ear. I hope things are well with you. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mirabelle, post: 762038, member: 28712"] Hello Copabanana, Thank you for your reply to my post. I am sorry to hear what you have experienced with your own son. I can certainly empathize. As you described, it is a dreadful conundrum to find yourself in trying to guide a legal adult with all the sense and judgement of a goose. Sense cannot be talked to my stepson at all. He actually admitted to my husband last week (and not in an angry or retaliatory way, just matter of factly) that he pretends to take in all the advice we give him but never intends on actually following through with it. (At least he was honest.) At the moment he is obsessed with getting his hands on all of the disability money we have saved for him, approximately $3000. He is currently living at the homeless shelter, waiting on ACT to arrange supported housing. Although he has no bills and three meals a day, he insists that he needs $100 a day to survive 'on the streets'. My husband is placing $15 a day in his bank account for vapes and snacks etc. but this is not enough. He has an inexplicable tendency to spend money on things he simply 'must' have, for example clothes, jewellery, and DoorDash takeout deliveries. (Yes, he called DoorDash to deliver to the shelter.) But when he gets these things he wears the shirt one time, and takes two bites out of his $35 food order, and the next day insists he must have money for the same things all over again. When he was living in our outbuilding, his Dad would take him to the store to spend some of his money on groceries - a junk food bonanza of his own choosing. A few days later he would insist he had no food, but the outbuilding contained 12 Coke bottles with two sips taken out of each one, an open but full box of cereal, popped bags of uneaten popcorn etc. He is blowing up my husband's phone relentlessly, pressuring him into giving him 'his money'. Social Security deemed him unfit to be in control of this money at the time of his application being approved, so we have set up a savings account for him which he does not have access to. If he got hold of all the money it would be spent in about 2 weeks flat on absolutely nothing. We don't know how to stop this other than to continue to ignore him. His father is ready to pull up stumps and move away, depleted and depressed, as you say. Thank you again for sharing your story and a sympathetic ear. I hope things are well with you. :):) [/QUOTE]
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