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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 524526" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I spoke too soon.</p><p>Turns out difficult child was on the street doing drugs.</p><p>He blurted out, "I wasn't thinking! And then when I thought I should call and tell you, it was too late, and what difference does it make if I tell you anyway, because the punishment is the same!!!? There are all kinds of things I've done that you don't know about!"</p><p></p><p>Uhhh ... lots of silence.</p><p></p><p>husband: "If you tell us what you haven't told us before, we promise not to punish you for it. But you know that the XBox is taken away indefinitely because of the credit card."</p><p></p><p>I literally had my hand over my mouth to keep myself from saying anything.</p><p></p><p>Finally, after what seemed forever, difficult child said, "I smoked weed. I got the contact from T." </p><p></p><p>Okay, my hand came off my mouth, "I am NOT surprised at all."</p><p></p><p>(T got kicked out of school for 2 wks ... I thought he'd been kicked out for the entire yr for using or dealing, but he cooperated so he was only out for 2 wks. He's an amiable personality and will tell anybody anything. Except him mom.)</p><p></p><p>So, T made the arrangements, and difficult child had a drug dealer, who is over 18 (that's the part that scares the cr&p out of me) ride his scooter to our street (that's the other part that scares the cr*p out of me) but NOT to our house, because supposedly difficult child gave him another house # and didn't show him our actual house ... and he got a handful of weed. $5 worth. </p><p></p><p>"Did you roll it yourself?" we asked. </p><p></p><p>"Yes, the paper was $1."</p><p></p><p>I said, "How do you know it wasn't regular printer paper and--" but husband cut me off. Anyhoo ...</p><p></p><p>husband was much, much more disturbed by the weed than I was. We both thought difficult child had tried it (all those visits to that park, and T and someone else getting caught at school, and difficult child whispering on his cell ph, etc. and then the cigarrette in the bathroom, which he sent down the toilet afterward ... he said he threw the rest of the weed in the woods in our yard) but we didn't know the details.</p><p>It was worth not punishing him, to have him tell us. </p><p></p><p>So, Cousin P may not ever, every give difficult child cash again. </p><p>He will not use the Xbox until further notice (I suggested to husband a month but I want to wait until the report cards are issued this wk. I'm sure he's got Ds in two classes and that's one more reason to keep him away from gaming ... forever?)</p><p>I will take him to Boys Club, which I signed him up for at the beginning of the yr, but never followed through on, the days when he does not have baseball.</p><p>He will do chores constantly or his phone goes away.</p><p>His grades will come up.</p><p>And we know that his phone is his major trigger. (Think, anxiety issues when trying on new jeans from the store and having to call the police).</p><p></p><p></p><p>The weed issue bothers husband more than it bothers me. For personal reasons (too long to type here) I think alcohol is more dangerous (at least for difficult child). So husband is creating his own personal hell at the moment, and he just has to deal with-it on his own.</p><p></p><p></p><p>difficult child did give us some valuable info: the dealer is over 18, he drives a motorized scooter.</p><p></p><p>difficult child likes weed better than cigarettes. It did not make him cough, and it made him feel better. </p><p>I know lots of people who smoke pot to relax, and in particular, a 20-yr-old son of a friend (friend is in total denial and refuses to let his difficult child take Adderall) as just one example ... so I am going to talk to our psychiatrist about yet again changing difficult child's medications to lean toward anti-anxiety rather than anti-depression.</p><p></p><p>The odd thing is that when difficult child tried cigs and weed, he did both alone, at our house. The cig was in the upstairs bathroom (I wrote about that a few wks ago) and the weed was outside. I guess that's the Aspie part of him. He is the only one I know who has tried weed alone. Most people use it in groups, for fun and get-togethers. Whatever. </p><p></p><p>by the way, Cousin P fell and the asst living ctr didn't call me until 5 hrs later ... they got an xray 9 hrs later ... I only knew in a timely manner because the Visiting Angels caregiver called me. Grr. </p><p>And just as I am slowly recovering from poison ivy, I broke out in hives this a.m. It was something I ate or ingested, like medications and herbs, combined, probably.</p><p></p><p>I hate this!!!!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 524526, member: 3419"] I spoke too soon. Turns out difficult child was on the street doing drugs. He blurted out, "I wasn't thinking! And then when I thought I should call and tell you, it was too late, and what difference does it make if I tell you anyway, because the punishment is the same!!!? There are all kinds of things I've done that you don't know about!" Uhhh ... lots of silence. husband: "If you tell us what you haven't told us before, we promise not to punish you for it. But you know that the XBox is taken away indefinitely because of the credit card." I literally had my hand over my mouth to keep myself from saying anything. Finally, after what seemed forever, difficult child said, "I smoked weed. I got the contact from T." Okay, my hand came off my mouth, "I am NOT surprised at all." (T got kicked out of school for 2 wks ... I thought he'd been kicked out for the entire yr for using or dealing, but he cooperated so he was only out for 2 wks. He's an amiable personality and will tell anybody anything. Except him mom.) So, T made the arrangements, and difficult child had a drug dealer, who is over 18 (that's the part that scares the cr&p out of me) ride his scooter to our street (that's the other part that scares the cr*p out of me) but NOT to our house, because supposedly difficult child gave him another house # and didn't show him our actual house ... and he got a handful of weed. $5 worth. "Did you roll it yourself?" we asked. "Yes, the paper was $1." I said, "How do you know it wasn't regular printer paper and--" but husband cut me off. Anyhoo ... husband was much, much more disturbed by the weed than I was. We both thought difficult child had tried it (all those visits to that park, and T and someone else getting caught at school, and difficult child whispering on his cell ph, etc. and then the cigarrette in the bathroom, which he sent down the toilet afterward ... he said he threw the rest of the weed in the woods in our yard) but we didn't know the details. It was worth not punishing him, to have him tell us. So, Cousin P may not ever, every give difficult child cash again. He will not use the Xbox until further notice (I suggested to husband a month but I want to wait until the report cards are issued this wk. I'm sure he's got Ds in two classes and that's one more reason to keep him away from gaming ... forever?) I will take him to Boys Club, which I signed him up for at the beginning of the yr, but never followed through on, the days when he does not have baseball. He will do chores constantly or his phone goes away. His grades will come up. And we know that his phone is his major trigger. (Think, anxiety issues when trying on new jeans from the store and having to call the police). The weed issue bothers husband more than it bothers me. For personal reasons (too long to type here) I think alcohol is more dangerous (at least for difficult child). So husband is creating his own personal hell at the moment, and he just has to deal with-it on his own. difficult child did give us some valuable info: the dealer is over 18, he drives a motorized scooter. difficult child likes weed better than cigarettes. It did not make him cough, and it made him feel better. I know lots of people who smoke pot to relax, and in particular, a 20-yr-old son of a friend (friend is in total denial and refuses to let his difficult child take Adderall) as just one example ... so I am going to talk to our psychiatrist about yet again changing difficult child's medications to lean toward anti-anxiety rather than anti-depression. The odd thing is that when difficult child tried cigs and weed, he did both alone, at our house. The cig was in the upstairs bathroom (I wrote about that a few wks ago) and the weed was outside. I guess that's the Aspie part of him. He is the only one I know who has tried weed alone. Most people use it in groups, for fun and get-togethers. Whatever. by the way, Cousin P fell and the asst living ctr didn't call me until 5 hrs later ... they got an xray 9 hrs later ... I only knew in a timely manner because the Visiting Angels caregiver called me. Grr. And just as I am slowly recovering from poison ivy, I broke out in hives this a.m. It was something I ate or ingested, like medications and herbs, combined, probably. I hate this!!!!!!! [/QUOTE]
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