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<blockquote data-quote="leaving" data-source="post: 724198" data-attributes="member: 22505"><p>SomewhereOutThere, post: 724138, member: 1550"]Al anon deals with substance abuse. It would not meet your needs and many people may be horrified and turn him in.Do not bring it up there!!!</p><p></p><p>The bottom line is, our adopted son had a compassionate caseworker, but my son was still charged in court and put into residential. Regardless of why your son is like he is, being abused himself and talking about it may greatly help his understanding, but he will possibly still be seen as a threat to Daughter and even neighborhood kids. Just like no doubt most rspists were abused, that doesnt take the punishment out of the crime. Sexual stuff is probably taken more seriously than any other childhood issue. Hope for the best, but do </p><p></p><p>[QUOTE="Your son needs help and this is critical. His urges and masturbating into towels then washing himself with the towel IS NOT NORMAL. Nor is his liking of seeing baby boy parts. Or his ideas about poop.</p><p></p><p>For the third time I urge you to do what you know hasto happen so that he and the rest of you can get help before something bigger happens. In fact, you dont know for sure that nothing has.</p><p></p><p>A professional has to deal with this. Its above your ability.</p><p></p><p>If you hide it further and worse happens, at least you were warned. I ferl that you now realize the need to help your son and to be honest.</p></blockquote><p></p><p>While I appreciate your sense of urgency in your advice, we have a plan in place for this week that involves his counselor, an intensive inpatient/outpatient center, a parent meeting with the counselor and a family meeting with the counselor (our son, my husband and myself). </p><p></p><p>I think it's easy, especially on this forum where a lot of bad things happen to really demonize the child in question, but behind each of these kids there are entire stories you do not see. You do not see the smiles, the laughter, the goodness and the love. And for the record we are not "hiding" we literally just found out about this when I made the post. It takes time to gather evidence and plan a course of action.</p><p></p><p>I do thank you for looking out for us though. We have a handle on this. This week it all goes down. Keep our family in your thoughts and prayers.</p><p>[/QUOTE]</p>
[QUOTE="leaving, post: 724198, member: 22505"] SomewhereOutThere, post: 724138, member: 1550"]Al anon deals with substance abuse. It would not meet your needs and many people may be horrified and turn him in.Do not bring it up there!!! The bottom line is, our adopted son had a compassionate caseworker, but my son was still charged in court and put into residential. Regardless of why your son is like he is, being abused himself and talking about it may greatly help his understanding, but he will possibly still be seen as a threat to Daughter and even neighborhood kids. Just like no doubt most rspists were abused, that doesnt take the punishment out of the crime. Sexual stuff is probably taken more seriously than any other childhood issue. Hope for the best, but do [QUOTE="Your son needs help and this is critical. His urges and masturbating into towels then washing himself with the towel IS NOT NORMAL. Nor is his liking of seeing baby boy parts. Or his ideas about poop. For the third time I urge you to do what you know hasto happen so that he and the rest of you can get help before something bigger happens. In fact, you dont know for sure that nothing has. A professional has to deal with this. Its above your ability. If you hide it further and worse happens, at least you were warned. I ferl that you now realize the need to help your son and to be honest.[/QUOTE] While I appreciate your sense of urgency in your advice, we have a plan in place for this week that involves his counselor, an intensive inpatient/outpatient center, a parent meeting with the counselor and a family meeting with the counselor (our son, my husband and myself). I think it's easy, especially on this forum where a lot of bad things happen to really demonize the child in question, but behind each of these kids there are entire stories you do not see. You do not see the smiles, the laughter, the goodness and the love. And for the record we are not "hiding" we literally just found out about this when I made the post. It takes time to gather evidence and plan a course of action. I do thank you for looking out for us though. We have a handle on this. This week it all goes down. Keep our family in your thoughts and prayers. [/QUOTE]
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