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Why are mother/daughter relationships so hard?
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 752716" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>There are intricacies in here that resonate with me and my own family dynamics.</p><p></p><p>We have a family member who doesn’t have the nicest mom. But they live close to one another. I see her daughter try to see her very often and the mom , at times, take a little advantage of that. Having her daughter drive her places etc. Her adult daughter wants, needs and craves that closeness.</p><p></p><p>It’s bothersome to me although it’s truly none of my business because I didn’t have that opportunity even though my own mom was super nice (she died young as I said). Additionally, our son lives 25-30 mins away and at times I feel like it might as well be much farther. He is not very quick to come over and at times complains about the distance. Yet, we changed cities to be near him etc. Knick on wood...there has been some improvement. I guess the contrast is noticeable.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line...I totally “get” that desire to be with our adult children and grandkids and at times feel left out.</p><p></p><p>Of note...even thought that other relative loves being with her mother ...at times she does find it tiring. I think after children come into the picture...time is less available etc.</p><p></p><p>We are doing our best to fill up our times with travel when we can and pay attention to any good deals at restaurants. Heck, I guess we’ve turned into those folks we use to giggle at searching for a good early bird special! Oh my goodness! Yikes!!! (But we do have fun...this is important! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> )</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 752716, member: 4152"] There are intricacies in here that resonate with me and my own family dynamics. We have a family member who doesn’t have the nicest mom. But they live close to one another. I see her daughter try to see her very often and the mom , at times, take a little advantage of that. Having her daughter drive her places etc. Her adult daughter wants, needs and craves that closeness. It’s bothersome to me although it’s truly none of my business because I didn’t have that opportunity even though my own mom was super nice (she died young as I said). Additionally, our son lives 25-30 mins away and at times I feel like it might as well be much farther. He is not very quick to come over and at times complains about the distance. Yet, we changed cities to be near him etc. Knick on wood...there has been some improvement. I guess the contrast is noticeable. Bottom line...I totally “get” that desire to be with our adult children and grandkids and at times feel left out. Of note...even thought that other relative loves being with her mother ...at times she does find it tiring. I think after children come into the picture...time is less available etc. We are doing our best to fill up our times with travel when we can and pay attention to any good deals at restaurants. Heck, I guess we’ve turned into those folks we use to giggle at searching for a good early bird special! Oh my goodness! Yikes!!! (But we do have fun...this is important! :) ) [/QUOTE]
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