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<blockquote data-quote="Nature" data-source="post: 740286" data-attributes="member: 19011"><p>Hugs to you as well, as I can almost hear the frustration in your voice via reading the post. So difficult watching our adult children crash and burn and we are the bystanders watching it unfold.Feeling powerless. They seek us out only to ask for money and please don't beat up yourself about it as I too have given money when I KNEW it was the worst thing I could have done at the time. In those times, I was too overwhelmed, too tired to stand firm and say NO when other times just like yourself I was able to stay firm. It's why looking after yourself is the most important thing as that allows you to gain strength and stay true to yourself and your values.</p><p>It's how you get your power back.</p><p></p><p>No one is here to judge and I have a suspicion you are sometimes beating yourself up because yup sometimes we are so darn tired it's easier to hand it over than have to deal with the drama. You know yourself the right answer to this.</p><p></p><p>I remember when my son was a newborn and was laying deathly ill in the hospital and I didn't leave his side for the first two weeks - praying he'd survive. I often would think of that time in my lowest moments when I saw my son on the streets. What if? I would ask myself. I wouldn't now be enduring this pain. I can understand your questioning and yearning for a better life but sadly we have enough lemons to open up a national chain. We can drive ourselves zany by asking the What ifs? Hang in there - we are here to support you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nature, post: 740286, member: 19011"] Hugs to you as well, as I can almost hear the frustration in your voice via reading the post. So difficult watching our adult children crash and burn and we are the bystanders watching it unfold.Feeling powerless. They seek us out only to ask for money and please don't beat up yourself about it as I too have given money when I KNEW it was the worst thing I could have done at the time. In those times, I was too overwhelmed, too tired to stand firm and say NO when other times just like yourself I was able to stay firm. It's why looking after yourself is the most important thing as that allows you to gain strength and stay true to yourself and your values. It's how you get your power back. No one is here to judge and I have a suspicion you are sometimes beating yourself up because yup sometimes we are so darn tired it's easier to hand it over than have to deal with the drama. You know yourself the right answer to this. I remember when my son was a newborn and was laying deathly ill in the hospital and I didn't leave his side for the first two weeks - praying he'd survive. I often would think of that time in my lowest moments when I saw my son on the streets. What if? I would ask myself. I wouldn't now be enduring this pain. I can understand your questioning and yearning for a better life but sadly we have enough lemons to open up a national chain. We can drive ourselves zany by asking the What ifs? Hang in there - we are here to support you. [/QUOTE]
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