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why does a simple request or suggestion makes difficult child lose it??
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 584104" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>By their nature, difficult children, who tend to be wired differently, just can't take suggestions or sometimes even simple requests. They just like to be oppositional. Well, I don't know if they LIKE it, but they DO it. If they were compliant, they wouldn't be difficult children. To be fair, even my easy child, who is a typical teen through and through, will often say, "Wait. I'll do it later." And it won't get done. And if I make a suggestion, she may also say, "Then YOU do it!" The difference is th intensity and that she is usually reasonable if spoken to and most often tries to cooperate, but part of non-cooperation is typical teen. </p><p></p><p>If she has fetal alcohol effects, she has some brain damage, which is not her fault, and part of the symptoms of that is emotional liability, along with many other problems that they really didn't cause. Extreme impulsivity is another trait and it doesn't respond well to ADHD medications. I have a child who was exposed to drugs/alcohol in utero and fostered other ones.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 584104, member: 1550"] By their nature, difficult children, who tend to be wired differently, just can't take suggestions or sometimes even simple requests. They just like to be oppositional. Well, I don't know if they LIKE it, but they DO it. If they were compliant, they wouldn't be difficult children. To be fair, even my easy child, who is a typical teen through and through, will often say, "Wait. I'll do it later." And it won't get done. And if I make a suggestion, she may also say, "Then YOU do it!" The difference is th intensity and that she is usually reasonable if spoken to and most often tries to cooperate, but part of non-cooperation is typical teen. If she has fetal alcohol effects, she has some brain damage, which is not her fault, and part of the symptoms of that is emotional liability, along with many other problems that they really didn't cause. Extreme impulsivity is another trait and it doesn't respond well to ADHD medications. I have a child who was exposed to drugs/alcohol in utero and fostered other ones. [/QUOTE]
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